Nappturology 101

Moisture: Nappy Hair’s Best Friend

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While mineral oil and petroleum-based products can be nappy hair’s worst enemy, you’ll find that water is nappy hair’s best friend. You see, nappy hair has raised cuticles, that’s the outer layer of the hair that you can liken to shingles on a roof. On naturally straight hair, those “shingles” can lay flat. But on nappy hair that twists, turns, bends and zigzags, it’s nearly impossible for our cuticles to lay flat. So that makes our hair porous, meaning it sucks up moisture like a sponge, but it also has a hard time trapping and retaining moisture too. Kinda like a door that’s been left open…let’s everything in and everything out.

So, as a nappy, your number one mission with regards to your hair is to keep it moisturized. You need to be seeking out products that promote the attraction and retention of moisture. Most likely moisture based products with some type of humectant. A humectant is a substance that attracts moisture. Glycerin, honey, propylene glycol are a few common humectants. Now if have grease in your hair, it most likely contains either a mineral oil or a petroleum base, both of which coat your hair shaft and doesn’t allow it to take in moisture. And that will only compound the issue of dryness.

In fact, take note, many nappy’s find that their hair doesn’t tolerate any oil. I don’t use oil at all. If you experiment with such, make sure it’s an essential oil because they are permeable and will not block moisture out.

Also, one final thing, don’t let the advertising confuse you. Oil is NOT moisture. Moisture equals water. The most prevelant ingredient in any product is placed at the top of the list. The further down the list, the less prevelant an ingredient is in the product. So if your label says the product contains aqua/water, glycerine and propylene glycol those are your primary ingredients.

So now as soon as you get a chance, wash that stuff out of your hair and get it some proper moisture!

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  • Shani // November 5, 2006 at 10:04 pm | Reply

    I’ve been wearing my hair in a fro (puff) for a year now. I don’t know what else to do with it. It is pretty big (I have very thick hair) and people often ask me “is that your real hair?” I do love my fro, but twisitng it at night and pulling it apart in the morning is getting old. Is there a product I can put on it while it’s wet, some type of moisturizer or gel? I’m not looking to change the texture, but I don’t always have time to blow it out after I wash it.

    Thank you so much.
    Shani in Florida

  • nappyme // November 5, 2006 at 11:02 pm | Reply

    Hi Shani,
    If I understand you correctly, you twist your hair up at night so that you’ll have a more stretched out fro in the morning. Is that right?
    Well…if that’s what you’re trying to accomplish, then twisting it is still probably the best method to achieve a more voluminous fro or a puff. If you use a moisturizer on or gel on it in the morning, you’re just going to cause shrinkage, and that would obviously be counterproductive to what you’re trying to achieve.
    You say you’ve been wearing your hair in a fro or a puff for over a year because you don’t know what to do with it. Have you taken a look around my site. I have tons of pictures that could perhaps give you some ideas on how to style your hair. I’ve pics of my hair in twists, two-strand twists and twistouts.
    Of course there are a lot of other ways to wear your hair too. Are you a member of Nappturality.com? If not, pop over to the board and take a look around. It’s an online community full of sistas just like yourself who wear their hair naturally and proudly. With over 50,000 members, many of who maintain photo journals or blogs that document their natural journey. Through NP, as the site is affectionately know, you’d be able to access member journals to get all kinds of ideas for your hair.
    Oh…and about using a blow dryer to achieve to stretch your hair. I know you didn’t ask about it, but I’m always compelled to impart a word of caution. Blow drying your hair can be extremely damaging. It saps your hair of moisture, and that can lead to brittle hair that is prone to breakage. If your goal is to have healthy nappy hair with good elasticity, ditch the heat. I’d much rather see you twist it up at night, every night than risk the health of your hair.
    Good luck Shani and thank you for visiting Nappturology 101. I hope you make it a resource for your natural hair care. If you have any additional questions, feel free to post on the site or email me at NappymeHappyme@aol.com.

  • Karyn // November 21, 2006 at 1:15 am | Reply

    Hello,

    I don’t know who I’m addressing this comment to, but it was suggested to me to check out your website. I like what I see and feel like a nitwit for using so much heat in my hair to get it to act right. My hair is fine, soft, and thin. I wore a TWA during the summer months for the last six years but because I wanted more volume because I thought my face was too fat for a shorter look, I’ve been straightening it with a flat comb every week. My hair is usually limp on most days with no curl whatsoever, nad weighted down with the “grease” that you mention on your site. I am so happy to have found this site. I’m still contemplating on what to do to look younger than my mature age of 51. lol Losing weight would definitely help. Do you have any info for someone with fine, thin hair. I just don’t feel that I can proudly wear a TWA again and look like it’s “me”. I’ve never had braids, nbut I could consider it if I find someone reasonable in my area that cou;d do them for me. Thanks for the treasure trove of good info !! I’ll check out MotownGirl’s site also.

  • nappyme // November 21, 2006 at 7:00 pm | Reply

    Hi Karyn,
    You’re addressing Nappyme, I’m the owner of this website Nappturology 101. Thank you so much for dropping by. See you found the article on heat and what kind of damage it can inflict on nappy hair. Hopefully, you haven’t damaged it too badly with the flat ironing and after reading my article “Heat: Nappy Hair’s Worse Enemy” I hope you decided to stop using heat althogether.
    You say your hair is fine and thin and you’re tired of wearing a twa. Well it sounds like you’re going to have to be patient until your hair gets a little longer. If you take really good care of it, you could gain up to .5 inches a month and perhaps even up to six inches in one year. But learning how to take care your your hair in order to retain your length is going to be crucial to helping you get out of that twa stage.
    I’m not sure how long your hair is at the moment, but you could certainly try varying your look by wearing twists, twistouts, head bands, scarves, box braids, braid outs and flat twists to spice up that twa. It’s all about experiementing. Don’t be afraid to do it. You can’t figure out what looks good on you until you try.
    If you’re not already a member, you need to hop on over to Nappturality.com. You’ll find women from all over the world on this site who are in various stages of their natural journey. I’ve got an albums for you to check out. This nappy has thin fine hair and is awesome when it comes to styling her naps. Maybe you’ll be able to get some ideas from her.
    Check it out when you get a chance.

    *Natitwists

    If I run across any more nappies with thin fine hair, I’ll post their album links here.
    Good luck and let me know if you have any more questions.

  • terry // January 24, 2007 at 8:11 pm | Reply

    i have short thin hair combed to the front im tring to grow a little fro so right now i have a headband around my hair to grow it back can some1 tell me if that will work

  • nappyme // January 24, 2007 at 8:14 pm | Reply

    Hi Terry,
    I’m going to respond to you via email…I need a little more information…

  • Lyenes // January 25, 2007 at 10:19 am | Reply

    Finally! I’ve found someone who’s hair does not tolerate oil. Do you use only water to moisturize your hair?

  • nappyme // January 25, 2007 at 10:41 am | Reply

    Hi Lyenes,
    I use Pro Line Comb Thru Moisturizer. It contains a little lanonlin which my hair seems to tolerate. I’ve actually started mixing jojoba oil (an essential oil that has a composition similar to our natural sebum) into my store bought moisturizer because my Pro Line pretty much stopped being effective on its own once the weather turned cooler. I was a little skeptical but it seems to be working. I’ll continue to do this through the winter months and then go back to my minimalistic oil routine (save the little bit of lanolin that’s in my product) when summer comes.

  • African Cheetah // February 16, 2007 at 2:11 pm | Reply

    Hi there, Nappyme!

    I’m glad I found you. I am almost 2 weeks into my new-natural-do (a TWA) and I’m finding it quite difficult to keep any moisture in my head. The only thing that has worked has been the leave in conditioner I made (3 parts water, 1 part conditioner, 1 part glycerin).

    In addition, I’ve been using Extra Virgin Olive Oil mixed with some Essential Oils (Peppermint, Tea Tree and Bergamot), raw Shea Butter and Coconut Oil to try to maintain some sheen.

    However, I still feel brillo-pad-ish by the time I get home from a 15 hour day.

    How do I know if my hair is not responding to the oils?

    Could this be a result of leaving the house with it still wet in this sub-zero weather (I’m in Cleveland)?

    What are my alternatives?

    Any assistance you can provide will be great.

  • Eboni // February 24, 2007 at 6:25 pm | Reply

    great info! This is very helpful! I truly thought that oil was moisture, but now I know that moisture is water and that’s what my hair needs most. Thanx.

  • Shorty // April 24, 2007 at 11:36 am | Reply

    I am a newbie nappy. What are some products that are good moisturizers with the essential ingredients listed above.

  • nappyme // April 24, 2007 at 11:56 am | Reply

    Hi Shorty!
    Welcome to NPP101, and also welcome to the nappy side. To answer your question, curl products like Carefree Curl Moisturizer and Wave Nuveau are two good water/glycerine based products. I also like Pro Line Comb Thru Lite Creme Moisturizer. I recently picked up a tube of Scurl Lite Wave Jel Activator. As you can see, I have practically no brand loyalty — when it comes to these two ingredients, I’m finding practically any product will do what I need it to do. And that is to keep my hair suffienciently moisturized.

    Give them a try.

    Good luck and thanks for stopping by!

  • Chiwa // June 26, 2007 at 5:04 am | Reply

    hi Nappyme

    I am an African woman( from Zimbabwe) but i live in Queensland, Australia.
    i really love your website!! it has a lot of very relevent info on it. i particularly like the scientific feel of your explainations about the nature and structure of hair. it really helps to clarify a lot of issues for me, being from a scientific background. one question; when you say that your hair doesn’t “tolerate” oil, what exactly do you mean by this?

  • nappyme // June 28, 2007 at 12:09 am | Reply

    Hi Chiwa…wow is that your real name or just your screen name. Either way, it’s very beautiful.

    I’m so glad you like my site. I really do strive to give factual information about why things work the way the do in order to help women have a better understanding about how to care for nappy hair.

    Since I first wrote this, I’ll amend what I said about my hair not tolerating oils just a tad bit. My hair obviously does not like oils such as mineral oil and petroleum based products. They left my hair feeling dry all the time. It wasn’t until I switched to water based moisturizing products that my hair really began to thrive.

    When it comes to essential oils, this is where I’ll amend my statement a little bit. My hair might react just fine to essential oils, but my whole thing is that I personally just don’t like oily hair. I don’t care how much someone swears something won’t leave your hair feeling oily, I can’t stand the feel of it in my hair. I grudgingly put jojoba oil in my moisturizers in the winter time to help combat keep my hair feeling soft and supple. And although it helped a little, it was not as soft and supple as it was with just plain moisturizer that I use during the summer months. But soon as we get back into warmer more humid weather, I ditch the jojoba oil and my hair does just fine without it.

    If I could find something else to use instead of jojoba oil…some other ingredient besides oil, believe you me, I’d use it in a heart beat.

    Hope this answers your question. Thanks for stopping by!

  • Yvonne // July 7, 2007 at 10:20 am | Reply

    Hi nappyme

    I`m glad I found this site! I’m ive been natural for about 2 months and i’ve found that any product that is not clear seems to sit on top of my hair. My hair doesnt like oil either. It’s not dry, but the only thing I can use in it is gel. What other products do you suggest?

  • nappyme // July 7, 2007 at 3:12 pm | Reply

    Hi Yvonne,
    Welcome to NPP101. You can try clear gel (jheri) curl activating products, they are water and glycerin based moisturizing products. I picked up a tube on accident and it worked just fine. Unfortunately, I can’t think of the name of the product that I used cause I’ve used it all up and no longer have the container. And, I can’t think of any of the others that I’ve seen from time to time either. Sorry about that. But if you go to any store that carries ethnic products you should have no problem finding an clear gel activating products; I’ve seen them in large flat clear plastic jars ans well as tubes.

    Good luck with your hair and come back again!

  • ateenyi // July 20, 2007 at 4:22 am | Reply

    this website was SUCH a good idea! really. thank you. it’s an amazing resource.

    i’m particularly interested in what you’ve been sharing about the importance of moisturising because my hair is sooooo dry… i’m at my wits end as to what to do about it. i realise now that it’s probably all the blow-drying i’ve been doing these past several months – i just got lazy to twist it and let it airdry! but anyway, i’ll be sure to take extra caution to avoid any heat from now on.

    still, i need some kind of emergency resuscitation measures. i cut off about 2 inches thinking maybe the messed-up ends were behind all the breakage and dryness, and i’ve been doing regular hair mayonnaise treatments. i havent blow-dried it in a while either, and yet there are still see no observable improvements.

    are there any particular products you would recommend? thing is though that i’m in rwanda so half of these essential oils i see on your website, i have absolutely no access too. they just arent available on the local market. but i was thinking i could maybe mix glycerine, water and extra virgin olive oil and use that as my moisturiser – d’you think the combination would be any good?

    thanks:)

  • nappyme // July 21, 2007 at 2:10 pm | Reply

    Many nappies swear by olive oil as a good way to help seal in moisture. Remember that glycerine is a humectant that will pull moisture out of the air. If you live in an dry environment then humectants aren’t going to do anything for you. But if you live in a really humid place your hair will thrive on glycerin/and water based moisturizers. So, if this is the case, sounds like a glycerin/water/olive oil moisturizer might just do the trick… You’ll just have to try it and see.

    However, just know that if you’ve really damaged your hair with heat, you’ve likely done so to the entire hair shaft so you’re going to always have to jump through hoops to keep their hair moisturized.

    At some point, you’ll probably want to continue cutting that heat damaged hair out (which you can do gradually) until you have ONLY virgin heat free hair on your head.

    Good luck and thanks for visiting NPP101!

  • Shorty // August 13, 2007 at 8:37 am | Reply

    I spoke with a friend who is also Nappy. However she says that water is not her friend. She told me to stay away from products who main ingredient is water. Based on this information that is not true. Comments?

  • nappyme // August 13, 2007 at 2:41 pm | Reply

    Hi Shorty,
    Don’t know what to tell ya. Most folks with highly textured really nappy hair, especially of the 4B (cNapp) variety like have serious moisture retention issues. Without more info about why she has experienced the opposite of this, I haven’t a clue.

    Also, you have to realize that everyone’s hair is different and there is always someone who will say their hair does not follow the “norm.” That siad, I would say as far as your hair is concerned, if you’re nappy, you’re more likely than not to have moisture retention issues. So you need to determine for yourself what’s best for your hair. If you keep reading articles on NPP101 and elsewhere on the Internet about caring for nappy hair, you’ll find that keeping nappy hair moisturized is probably the #1 issue that nappy-headed folks have.

    Again, experiment and do what’s best for you.

    Good luck!

  • Paula // August 13, 2007 at 7:29 pm | Reply

    Hi,
    I just found your site and it is great! My question is that I have very challenging hair and I don’t know how to take care of it. I like to wear it natural, but it tends to be very dry as a result. And I have an issue of it not growing in certain spots. Some of it is curly, some of itis wavy, I need help! Any suggestions?

  • Ali G // August 16, 2007 at 6:10 pm | Reply

    Hi Nappyme!!!!

    I came upon your site by accident!!! I was actually looking for a pressing oil, to hot comb my hair, and then one of your articles came up about heat damaged!!! After i read it, I changed my mind from hot combing my natural hair!!!!I’m so happy I found this site!!! I have one question though. I’ve noticed that the ends on the left side of my hair is always dry. Is there anything I could use to stop the dryness?

  • nappyme // August 17, 2007 at 6:10 pm | Reply

    Hi Paula and Ali, if you read through some of the responses above you’ll see that I use a variety of water/glycerin based products. Currently I use Proline Lite Combthru Moisturizer. You might also try any curl moisturizing product as well. Sta Sof Fro is raved on by a lot of nappies as well.

    Good Luck!

  • Vicki // September 16, 2007 at 11:03 pm | Reply

    Hello Nappyme,

    Now I finally understand why my nappy hair has been feeling so dry lately and even when i moisturized. It’s because all this time i’ve been using only OIL on my hair The only time my head really comes in contact with water is when i wash it. I feel a little stupid thinking that using only essential oils would benefit my hair.

    After reading Quich your thirsty naps i went right in my kitchen in did just that. My hair feels so much better now but unfornately it my excitement was short lived since the water was absorbed in about 2 minutes. Wow i guess my naps was really thirsty!

    I now know that my hair needs water to survive. Thanks for filling clueless people like me in on that one.

  • nappyme // September 17, 2007 at 6:24 pm | Reply

    You’re so welcome. I’m no expert on making spritzes for my hair, but I know a lot of nappies will make their own moisturizers using water and their favorite essential oils. Check out Mowtowngirl.com for some good ideas in this area and good luck!

  • Valerie // September 28, 2007 at 5:21 pm | Reply

    2nd part
    The second problem of my hair is loss of moisture after washing, shrinkage, and tangles. I have, healthy tightly coiled, and thin hair (between a 4 A or B), but so dense that it looks thick and feel think too, really sensible and oily scalp prone to dandruff: If I do not wash my hair twice a week, I know my scalp will be in trouble, but I use a very gentle shampoo.

    I have resorted to wash my hair when they are on loose braids that I detangled with a mixture of regular conditioner and water, the night before. When I wash my hair like this I don’t lose lots of hair, just a normal range. Before this method, my hair is so dense that the shampoo could not even reach the scalp. After shampooing I use a deep conditioner every time, leave it on for 20 minutes with or without heat, then I detangled, put them back on braids, rinse and give a final rinse of water and apple vinegar. Then I am good to go for hairstyling, my hair is soft enough to finger comb it. I do this twice a week,
    So, my hair gets moisture twice a week, I do not use any leave-in conditioner often between washes and this might be a problem.
    Here’s the hard part. When I have to comb my hair, I use a leave-in conditioner, and I have to comb it as fast as possible because when it gets dry, the hair shrinks and tangles, so breakage gets involved. That is one of the reason I do not like to experiment with hairstyles. Another problem with moisture, is that two days after the washing and conditioning, My hair look unkept and dull, it’s dry not like before but the ends are dry, frizzy and I don’t know what to do. If I use a leave in conditioner on top of the braids is ok, but afterwards it’s dry again.

  • nappyme // September 30, 2007 at 11:21 am | Reply

    Hi Valerie,
    Welcome to NPP101,

    Congrats on being nappy, and I’m sorry to hear about all of your hair woes. Nappy hair can be a challenge when you don’t know what to do or where to turn.

    Seems like you just found my blog, and I’m glad you love my site, so rather than try to answer all of your questions (from Part I and Part II) of your very lengthy (and multiple posts… EIGHT to be exact) I’m going to suggest that you take some time and look around my site. I’m positive that nearly every question you’ve asked, you can probably find answers for if you just look around.

    Then, take a deep breath, and try some things out. Then if you have some questions, please feel free to ask. And we’ll try to stick to one topic at a time cause, if I were to try to answer your questions here I’d basically be rewriting my entire blog.

    Good luck!

  • stinky // October 15, 2007 at 12:51 am | Reply

    i cant brush my hair while wet. it breaks when i try to detangle/pull it back in a bun. i guess it’s too much pressure. I like the wet ponytail look. strength suggestions?

  • nappyme // October 15, 2007 at 9:47 pm | Reply

    Stinky, try using a wide tooth comb then. That will work to detangle. Then let it air dry. Before it gets all the way dry, if you need to then use a brush to finish getting the tangles and shed hair out.

    You can also try detangling with a wide tooth comb under running water with conditioner in your hair as well. Make sure you have a good quality comb that won’t snag your hair.

    Good luck!

  • Najmah // December 8, 2007 at 7:54 am | Reply

    Good Day, Everyone,

    This is my 1st time on this site and I’m glad I found it.
    I just bought some Vigorol because I want to stop using “Botannicals” on my hair. Since the last time I used it (10/05/07) I haven’t been able to stop the breakage. I didn’t have much of a problem with it before this last application.
    Now, it seems that, no matter what I do, it continues to thin out.
    I have always had nice, thick hair and I was never really comfortable with my hair being very straight, anyhow. So, I started looking for a product to “ease” my hair from straight to natural, thinkg that would be the best way to transition back to natural.
    But, after looking up Vigorol online and finding this site, I know what I am going to do. My older sister used to wet my hair, then put oil (olive oil, I think, or Royal Crown Pomade) on it when I was younger. I used to love the way my hair looked and felt, when she finished doing it.
    Plus, I was then and still am very tender-headed and I don’t like pain. So, my memory of what she used to do has been resurrected and I think I will take the Vigorol back and exchange it for one of the curl activitor product you’ve been writing about.
    I’m around very few Sisters who are Natural, and being Muslim, my hair is covered when in the public. So, it’s not affected too much by weather conditions.
    I’m 55 and have heard all of the horror stories about losing hair after 50. But, so far, I still have some to work with (smile). I’ll be coming back and have bookmarked this site. I was feeling so alone, when it comes to the pride of wearing my hair natural, so it’s good to find friends like you-all out here in Cyberspace.
    We ought to have a Nappy Convention some day with a Nappy Hair Fashion Show where we show off all of the different ways to style (and care for) Nappy Hair! WOW! What a thought!
    I love this site and will recommend it to all of my Sisters, whether they want to hear it or not. It’s one of the best sites for us, to regain our black pride in our “crowning glory”. Another way of “coming back home”.
    God bless you-all, and especially you, Nappyme!
    Najmah (Star)

  • nappyme // December 8, 2007 at 1:13 pm | Reply

    Hi Najmah,
    Welcome to NPP101!
    I’m sorry to hear about all of your breakage but believe me when I say, there’s nothing in the world like having a healthy head of natural nappy hair on your head. For us, it’s beauty personified.

    That said, it’s also times like this that I’m soooo happy my blog exists. I’ve been where you are and I’ve tried exhaustively to get my hair to thrive under the use of chemicals to no avail. I’m incredibly pleased that you found me and the information on that dreaded Vigorol, which I believe is truely the debil along side of the rest of all the chemical relaxers. If you want to finish doing your hair in, using Vigorol will surely do that for you.

    So good for you with your decision to stop living the lie. God bless you too and keep me posted on your new, natural journey!

    Take care,
    ~Nappyme

  • Najmah // December 9, 2007 at 7:35 am | Reply

    Nappyme, I looked at the pictures of you doing the banding – your hair is so beautiful! I love it! That’s how mine used to be and will be again real soon.
    Yesterday, I decided to check everything I’d been putting on my hair (and skin) because of the information you give on mineral oil and petrolatum. “They” use that stuff as much, or more than, we (should) use water! WOW! No wonder we have dry hair, dry skin, dry lips, etc. We keep using that which makes us dry all over.
    Well, thanks to you, those days are over for me.
    Anyway, I have been using apple cider vinegar on may hair, off and on, for a while now. I got a little squirt bottle and keep it full of acv and leave it in the bathroom. Well, yesterday, I decided to put some on my hair, full strength, and leave it on. And, this morning, I didn’t do anything but brush and comb it and, thank God! Hardly any hair came out in either! Not only that, my head hasn’t itched “like crazy” since then.
    It’d been itching so bad, that by the time I finish scratching it, over time, I’d rub my hair out in places. Then, I’d buy the “anti-itch” stuff, again with mineral oil and petrol in them, and the beat went on…
    I felt that getting MY good, natural hair back can happen really fast, after reading all of the stories here, but I am really encouraged that I can have my beautiful hair back in no time. I keep seeing your pretty hair and imagining that it’s my head I’m seeing.
    I was told by a very wise friend of mine that the human “imagination is the biggest and most powerful nation in the world”. And, I believe it…
    Y’ll take care and have a blessed Day. I’ll definitely keep you posted on my journey back to me and my good (God-given) hair days – soon! Again, I LOVE this site! Nappyme, you are indeed a God-send…So, as we always say, “You Go, Girl!!!”

  • Chele // December 14, 2007 at 12:19 pm | Reply

    Hello Nappyme,

    This is a great site and I sincerely appreciate your ‘nappy’ enlightenment. I recently made life changing decisions (on my 43rd birthday), which included daily exercise, a healthy diet, good reads for my mind, body and spirit, the big chop, after 31 years of relaxers. No more chemicals for me! I desparately want to rock a TWA, and ulimately see how my hair will progress from there. When I did the big chop a month ago, it appears there are random bald spots in my scalp. I realize the thinning could be hereditary or from years of damage – perhaps both. I am currently using Carol’s Daughter Rosemary Mint Herbal Shampoo w/ Sea Moss, and I alternate Pink Shortlookds Gel’N and Motions Weightless Clear Hairdressing. All of the above seems to work great for me. However, what type of conditioners would you recommend to improve the texture and density of my hair? I am patient, so I welcome, with joy, a day at a time concerning my hair progression.
    Any suggestions you can give me will be greatly appreciate. Best of wishes and many blessings to you! I look forward to your response. Happy Holidays!
    Chele

  • nappyme // December 18, 2007 at 11:24 am | Reply

    Hi Chele,
    I don’t have a specific recommendation for conditioners other than to say you want something most likely that’s specifically forumated for dry hair. Go for ones that have all natural ingredients. Aubrey and Jason brands come to mind though they’re certainly not the only ones to consider.

    Just remember that nappy hair is inherently very dry so anything that you can do to quinch your thirsty naps will certainly serve them well.

  • Andrea // December 24, 2007 at 7:00 pm | Reply

    Can I use unuse
    Olive Oil from the kitchen to oil my scalp?

  • nappyme // December 24, 2007 at 11:34 pm | Reply

    Hi Andrea! I’m personally not a big fan of ANY type of oil but the olive oil folks buy and use comes straight from the grocery store. So yeah, if you’ve got some in your kitchen have at it and good luck!

  • Andrea // January 13, 2008 at 4:49 pm | Reply

    I need your advise my hair is very dry dull and lifeless.I have tried different products nothing to type about . I would like my hair to have moisture and shine. I wear my hair in two strand twists when I wear a twist out it is a hot mess .I am embracing my crown and glory.My hair is a mess for the momemt,but I am working on it.One thing for sure I will not be relaxing my nappy hair.Thanks for taking time out your busy schedule to get my nappy head on the right track

  • Rena // January 21, 2008 at 5:38 am | Reply

    Hi Nappyme, I was referred to this site from some one on nappturality i’m a new member there but i somewhat find the site a little confusing or maybe i should say overwhelming. There is so much info and who can read it all?This is my dilemma i want to go natural/organic.
    Right now my hair has over processed split ends and beautiful curly new growth. Part of me just wants to chop off all those relaxed ends and work with “my” hair. What’s stopping me? I don’t think the look will suit me. I’m slim and i have always thought the short look looks better on a full face. I am sporting a weave ponytail when it’s time to step out in the public eye. As a beginner what steps should i take to start growing my hair out. I read what you said about moisture and i’m on my way to the kitchen to start drinking water. Now about going organic. What products are really organic. I broke down and bought an “organic perm” but when i read, “always wear glove this product contains, Calcium hydroxide” followed by a long list of other stuff i just pushed the box away. Any help at all will be appreciated. Also my hair is a light brown. Does mean i need even more moisture.

  • Andrea // January 27, 2008 at 9:07 am | Reply

    My hair is dull .I drink over eight glasses of water everyday.I have visited different web site gathering information on how to take care of my nappy.I even spray my hair with water hoping to gain the shine and mositure.I am looking for but no such luck.I am not giving up just willing to try different things,I do not want to become a product junkie.I want to have shiny healthy hair.Thanks for all of your advice .Keep the comments coming.

  • nappyme // January 27, 2008 at 4:59 pm | Reply

    Andrea, depending on your texture, you may NOT have they type of hair that shines. For instance, my hair is thick, very tightly coiled and very coarse. My cuticles, the outer layer of hair, are raised…not flat. Therefore, they don’t reflect light very well, like light bouncing off a hard wood floor. Instead, raised cuticles and coily hair cause hair to absorp light and as a result, hair that isn’t properly moisturized can look dull, dry and lifeless.

    However, if you find the right moisturizer for your hair, it will look more like a low sheen.

    Now some really curly hair does have the ability to shine, but that typically isn’t the case with textures like mine. So what you have to determine is whether or not shine is an attribute that’s attainable for your hair type. If not, you’ll need to be OK with that or you’ll be forever trying to make your hair do something it doesn’t want to do.

  • S Dean // January 28, 2008 at 4:56 pm | Reply

    Hi nappyme: I just wanted to say, thank goodness my nappy hair bounced back. i think my prayer was answered after using that dryer one last time;) but @ 56 and being nappy two year’s I can’t afford to make many mistakes! I just wanted to tell other’s my age and younger. It is never to late to capture your naps back. Just believe and nurture them as vigorously as those perms. And you won’t regret this decision. I personally think less product I use is the better. The coils seem to thrive much better then when I load it with products. After saying this, water misted seems to moisturize then grapeseed oil on the ends. I hope this information helps somebody…

  • nappyme // January 29, 2008 at 12:57 am | Reply

    Hi S Dean,
    I had to refresh my memory with regard to your original post. Sorry I let a reply slip through the cracks. But I’m glad your hair bounced back! I can certainly relate to the feeling that you may have just messed up your hair. It’s why I won’t take a chance with most things that people will experiment with like heat and coloring. As badly as I’d like to cover up my gray I just don’t want to chance that I’d do something to destroy my lovely naps!

    Girl you take care!
    ~Nappyme

  • Rena // January 30, 2008 at 3:41 pm | Reply

    Is ylang ylang okay to use on the hair?  Also i saw some J/A/S/O/N shampoo and conditioners in  a natural health food store. Is this the brand you are speaking about? Also do you know wether Ms. Jessies products are chemical free? It appears as if they have to be applied like a perm.

  • Mimi // March 28, 2008 at 8:18 pm | Reply

    Hi Nappyme,
    I’m so glad that I came across your site! It’s very informative and overwhelming at the same time, there’s so much info I love it. lol!!! I have so many questions and at times I feel that my problem is specific to me, but reading the many posts and articles I find that I’m not alone!!! Thank God! Saying that, I have been natural for about 2 years now and I have very wiry hair that is seriously dry, brittle and lacks moisture. After reading your advice I see that water=moisture and I have noticed that my hair is more manageable(after removing the knots)when it’s wet. I also use olive oil, coconut oil or jojoba oil, whatever I have on hand at the time, but when my hair dries it’s as if I didn’t put anything in it at all. I wear my hair in 2 strand twists, if I try to wear a twist out oh my god my hair looks a hot mess…very dry and nappy looking. I was thinking of using a “naturalaxer”hoping that it will give me more manageability, stretch, and for some reason I believe it will help me with my moisture problem. I just want my hair to look and feel like cotton and not a brillo pad. I really LOVE my natural coif, I just need to get thru it better especially when it’s dry. I will try the glycerin/water mixture as well to see if that helps with my lack of moisture. I don’t want to bore you or hit on too many different topics because I can go on all day. lol I hope I didn’t complicate things… Please help!

  • nappyme // March 28, 2008 at 10:03 pm | Reply

    Hi Mimi!
    Some things to consider. Stop using sulfate shampoos. They’re very drying. Opt for all natural brands specifically forumlated for dry hair. Jason and Aubrey Organics are two such brands. You can find them at places like Whole Foods or go online and order them directly off their sites.

    Also consider that you might need a couple of round of moisturizing after you shampoo to get your hair feeling good. A really good, quick fix moisturizer is Sta Sof Fro, or any of the ole skool curl spray on moisturizers work too. That’s what I first started using and they worked like a charm. My mom is nappy, nappy with hair that stretches to her mid back and she’s been using Carefree moisturizer for years and it works just fine.

    Try these things and get back to me and let me know how they work.

    Take care,
    ~Nappyme

  • Nicole // April 7, 2008 at 3:06 pm | Reply

    Hi Nappyme!
    First off, I just want to congratulate you on this marvelous blog. What would we nappies do with out you?
    My problem is with style maintenance . Currently my hair is in comb coils (which I did myself, I’m so proud!) I use a leave in conditioning spray that I created. It’s composed of water, glycerin, Infusium 23 leave in conditioner, castor oil and rosemary oil. The problem is that when I lightly mist my coils, they immediately begin to frizz and puff up. I’ve cut back on using it every day; I now use it every other day, but I still get the same outcome. I’m on a low manipulation routine so I’m trying to keep my coils in for 2- 3 weeks, but when I try to moisturize my hair it starts to look frizzy and unkept. How can I keep my comb coils moisturized, but still maintain the freshness of my style?

  • Linda // April 11, 2008 at 10:43 pm | Reply

    Hi Nappyme,

    Thanks for the excellent advice! However, I don’t have natural hair, it is relaxed. My last relaxer was 6 weeks ago. It broke off a little in some places so I want to give my hair a rest from relaxing and hopfully grow it out quickly. I’m trying to stretch it out to every 3 or 4 months. I take hair vitamins along with treating it as if I had natural hair. I wash, deep condition and braid it every week. I use a leave in conditioner as my moisturizer two times a day (Aphogee Leave In Conditioner + 3 drops of gylcerin), and essential oils (olive oil or castor oil) every other day. I’ve been doing this for about 6 weeks now. My hair feels really soft and I don’t comb out hair! I’m confused though about the glycerin. You mentioned that glycerin can pull moisture out of your hair. But you also mentioned that you added it to your moisturizing mixture as well. How do I mix it so that it doesn’t pull moisture out of my hair but hold moisture in? Is it okay to use the leave in conditioner as a moisturizer? Is there anything else I can do or use to promote healthy hair and hair growth? I love this site!

  • nappyme // April 11, 2008 at 11:04 pm | Reply

    Hi Linda, welcome!
    About glycerin pulling moisture out of your hair… Whatcho talkin’ bout Willis? I never said that. If you are thinking you read that in my article about glycerin, you’ll need to read that again. I say glycerine pulls water from the air…not hair! But it can only do this when the air is saturated at about 60% humidity.

    Also, where did I say I added glycerin to my moisturizing mixture. Am I losing it here? I use commercial-based products that are water and glycerin based. The only thing I’ve added to a couple of my products have been jojoba oil in the winter to give my products a heavier, more substantial feel on my hair…hoping that it will make my hair softer and help it retain moisture while the air is soooo incredibly dry. I don’t know that it worked all that well this past winter. I became somewhat of a product junky this winter as I kept purchasing stuff trying to find something…anything that would make my hair be not so dry.

    I eventually turned back to my Proline Lite Comb Thru Moisturizer. I don’t know if that was ultimately the solution or if my hair was able to respond better to it since the temperate was no longer in the single digits. Seems like once the temps rose to at least freezing and above, my hair began to act a lot better.

    Not getting on to mixing glycerin. I do remember a sales clerk trying to sale me some straight glycerin once. I put a little on my finger and I didn’t like the feel of it. If I did purchase some though, I’d most like have made it into a water/glycerin spritz. That’s something you can try if you’re so inclined. But I don’t have any specific recommendations about how much water to use and how much glycerin to use etc, so I think you’ll have to experiment a little to see what works best for you.

    As far as what you can do to promote healthy hair growth and retain length, make sure you visit all the articles on my site about the Top Tips for Nappy Hair. That should give you good place to start.

    Good luck!
    ~Nappyme

  • V.C. // April 28, 2008 at 10:41 pm | Reply

    Hi Nappyme!
    Four months i went through the BC and…I’m loving my natural doo! I’m wearing two strand twists and loving the look and feel of it, my friends are loving and petting my hair more now, which is something they never did when i wore weaves or extentions! I’ve been experimenting with homemade products, doing my best to not become a product junkie or to spend lots of money on products that i don’t feel like i necessarily need. I made my own homemade leave-in conditioner mix with Burt’s Bees conditioner, olive oil, glycerin, and water. I’m not sure how leave-in conditioners are supposed to work, in terms of how often one should spritz some in their hair after washing and/or rinsing…at first, I absolutely loved how the leave-in felt good in my hair, but then it started to make my hair sticky once i used it almost everyday…should i be only using leave-in conditioners sparingly? is it needed at all if i use a vegetable glycerin/water/olive oil spritz that does the job just fine? and i was wondering, since im wearing my two strand twists and dont want to wash the style out, is it okay if i just rinse it (say with an ACV) instead of having to shampoo or condition it (i do a deep conditioner once every two weeks though)? I know i’m asking you so many questions at once, but here’s one more…my hair dresser, who seems to care more about my hair as much as i do, feels like my hair isnt growing as fast as she liked…is that a bad thing, or just her personal opinion (pretty much showcasing how much she DOES care)?

  • Tequesta // July 2, 2008 at 8:30 pm | Reply

    Hello,
    This is my second time going natural, the first time I did a big chop and had locks for 4 years (down past the bra strap). Then I cut it again and transitioned out of the perm with braids and now I am rocking a 4-5 inch little fro. I use alot of Edens Body works hair products which work really well for my hair and my daughter’s. I started using them on my 4 year old because her natural hair is always dry. We use the peppermint shampoo, conditioner and the hair milk. The hair milk is a leave in conditioner that keeps my hair hydrated really well. I also use carrot moisture hairdress creme at night before I wrap it up. I used the Eden’s temple balm to help my hairline recover from excessive pulling from my braids. Try it it’s a great hairline, all natural from a teenage entrepeneur. I normally order online, but they are now selling the products in Walmart stores.

  • Sera // July 7, 2008 at 8:27 pm | Reply

    Wonderful website you have here & so many topics that many naturals can relate to & need help in. Thanks for taking the time to create such a detailed website [gives me some inspiration to someday do so with my album site, I just need to find the patience to ;) ]

  • Slinky // July 9, 2008 at 5:35 pm | Reply

    Hi, I like your website. It is so informative! Im a teenager that was never allowed a relaxer when I was younger and I’m glad I wasnt! but I have a few questions about how the hair is formed. I read on a website that our hair (4a/b) has the most cutile layers but I read here it has the least, which is right?
    What are they made of? Is it protein and is it just to strengthen the hair?
    Is it bad if the cortex gets softer, does that cause it to break our hair? and is the cortex what determines the shape? or is it the cuticles? Im so confused! Where does the moisture go, to the cortex or somewhere else?
    Thanks for your help!

  • nappyme // July 11, 2008 at 7:21 pm | Reply

    Hi Slinky,
    Welcome! To answer some of your questions, every source that I’ve ever come across says that African hair has fewer cuticle layers than caucasoid or asian hair types.

    For more answers, check out this link: http://nappyme.wordpress.com/hair-facts/

    Enjoy!

  • i dont want yall 2 know cuz of my BAD HAIR!! // July 16, 2008 at 8:52 am | Reply

    i have not so good hair and my mom tells me that she wants me to go natural like some of the beautiful girls on this website. but whoever made this sites i want yall to know that i need help deciding on whether or not i should go natural. im really scared because i never had to make this very important choice. i dont want to have bad hair i want my hair to be healthy and shiny. but i dont want my mom to cut it. when i was a child my mom put a relaxer in my hair and now she wants me to go natural just like her. my mom is natrual and her hair is very beautiful. SO I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP A.S.A.P!! P.S WRITE BACK

  • Mila // October 2, 2008 at 8:28 am | Reply

    Hi Nappyme :)

    What a great resource for sisters everywhere who need advice on how to take care of high-maintenance hair! However, I question your advice of using products with propylene glycol in them, or a hgh amount of it in them. Propylene glycol is a petroleum byproduct and cause similar problems that mineral oil and its counterparts such as vaseline can when used regularly. Just wanted to give you a heads up!

  • nappyme // October 2, 2008 at 9:05 pm | Reply

    Hi Mila…
    I’m aware of the controversy surrounding propylene glycol. However, its use as a synthetic humetectant and I don’t have a problem with it being derived from biodiesel nor have I had any problem with it. When I went natural and started learning what my hair wanted and needed, I didn’t run from commercial products which we all know has all kinds of stuff in them that some people might find objectionable. I, however, and I dare say many others as well have never had a problem with this ingredient and my hair has thrived so I’m not likely to run from this ingredient any time soon.

    But thanks for good looking out…much appreciated!

  • Soulblknss // October 29, 2008 at 11:04 am | Reply

    Hello NappyMe,
    Thank heavens for this site!!! I’ve been wearing my hair natural for 18months and it’s grown to a point where I can’t wear a fro anymore. I would love to style it but I have issues with keeping the hair clear enough to style, so i wear an afo puff all the time. After i wash my hair and spend over 30min. clearing out the tangles, because of my tight kinks, ten minutes later I can barely make a part or pass a comb through it. All that work for nothing. What can I do to keep my hair tangle free and still keep it natural? Pleeeease help!!!
    ~Soul

  • nappyme // October 29, 2008 at 11:58 am | Reply

    Hi Soul,
    Welcome to NPP101!
    Hon, hmmm…pst…I got something to share with ya… Ready?

    Nappy hair tangles…that’s what it does. If you wear it loose, you’ll have a head full of naps with tangles in it. When you wear a fro or a puff, that’s the price you pay and for the most part there’s no getting around it.

    Now, you can try detangling and as you do so, make some really fat twists, over night to stretch your hair a minimize tangles. But other than keeping your hair in protective styles all the time (e.g., twists, braids, etc.) you are going to have tangles.

    Now if you’re style challenged, and you’re so inclined to learn how to style your hair in something other than a puff or a fro, my site has some wonderful tutorials on it that can help you out. Learning to style nappy hair can be challenging but it’s obviously NOT impossible.

    Here’s a link to some Hair videos for your convenience: http://nappyme.wordpress.com/instructional-videos/

    Just know that you’re not alone in learning how to style your hair. If you’re like most of us, we didn’t grow up knowing how do take care of and style nappy hair. Shoot seems like er’body knows something about taking care of a perm but not their natural hair. So it’s definitely a learning process.

    Please take the time to look at these videos. Be proactive and join some hair sites like my hair board cNappymeNow.com.

    Also, be patient with your efforts cause it may take some time to get the hang of the various techniques.

    Hope this helps.

    Good luck and Godbless,
    ~Nappyme

  • matt carter // December 18, 2008 at 10:58 pm | Reply

    Basicly ived tryed everything my hair is about 2inches and its growing veryyyyy slow I tryed hair formula 37 and I got no results.please help me

    • nappyme // December 18, 2008 at 11:20 pm | Reply

      Hi Matt,
      Are you telling me that your hair is growing slowly or that you aren’t retaining length. These are two different issues. Hair grows. Period. Unless you have some medical problem that is preventing your hair from actually growing in the follicle, then your hair is growing. Now how fast or how slowly it grows is purely genetic. Most people’s hair grows on average of two to six inches per year. This is merely an average though. And if you understand averages, then you know some peoples hair will grow slower or faster than this. If you tell me that you’ve been growing your hair for a year and you’ve only got about two inches of hair to show for it, then you’re telling me that you hair is growing at an incredibly slow rate. If you’ve grown your hair out for four months from something like a fade and you’ve got two inches of hair, then that amounts to 1/2 inch per month which would give you six inches of hair in a year…and that’s the high end of the average. If that’s the case, then your hair is growing at a fairly normal clip.

      No on the other hand, if you’re telling me that you’re not retaining length then you need to be wearing styles that protect your ends. I’m looking at your name, Matt Carter and I have to assume that you’re a guy. If you’re constantly picking and manipulating your hair, then you’re popping your ends off and that’s why you’re losing length. If you can, you could simply wear some cornrows and that would protect your ends too. That seems to be what a lot of the guys are doing these days and I’m seeing longer hair on the fellas a lot of times than I’m seeing on girls and women.

      With regards to using topical hair dressing to make your hair grow faster…forget it. That’s genetic and nothing is going to make your hair grow faster. But if youwant to retain length, keep your hair properly moisturized and your ends protected and you should start seeing some progress fairly soon.

      Hope this helps.
      Take care, God bless.
      ~Nappyme

  • Nella Beu // December 21, 2008 at 3:08 pm | Reply

    Hi, I have gradution coming up and my hair is short and nappy. My front of my hair is the longest. I want to know if there is a way for my hair to look longer and shiner (without an afro). I want my hair to be dropped down.

    Please help, i want a natural look for graduation and i am not allowed to perm my hair.

    • nappyme // December 22, 2008 at 10:50 am | Reply

      Hi Nella!
      Hon how short is short. If it’s really short, you’re not going to have much hang time to speak of. If it’s long enough to hang, then two strand twists might be your best bet. You could try some flat twists in the front and some two-strands in the back since your front is so short. I’m a little at a loss as to really suggest some hair styles since I don’t really know how much length you do have.

      You might google short nappy hair styles and see what comes up or join a hairboard and ask people to point you in the right direction.

      Congrats on your graduation and good luck with your hair.

  • Jen // December 31, 2008 at 1:18 pm | Reply

    Hey I’ve been natural (no chemicals) for 3 years now, and i’ve been wearing braids but for the last 2 months i’ve been wearing my natural hair and have had a hard time keeping it moisturized i tried using various oils on my hair but it absorbs it so quickly, my shrinkage is ridiculous, my hair was about 5-6 inches and it shrinks down to like an inch and a half, ive cut off my ends because i didnt like the way they felt so now my hair is about 3 inches long please tell me how i can keep my fro moisturized, i do twists sometimes but i dont want my hair to be so dry.

    • nappyme // December 31, 2008 at 1:25 pm | Reply

      Hi Jen,
      Try proline lite creme moisturizer to see if that helps it not be so dry. You can also try any of the curl moisturizers or the Stay Sof Fro moisturizing products. Not all hair responds well to oils, mine doesn’t for sure. So between all of these products, you should find something that you like and works.

      Good luck!
      ~Nappyme

  • Jen // December 31, 2008 at 1:23 pm | Reply

    when i had my braids in it seemed as if my hair was growing out soo fast, but now that i’ve been wearing my natural hair it doesnt seem like there is any growth at all and i havent changed my hair care routine, i just love being natural because my whole life people said either braids or a perm is the way to go, anyway any advice is welcome

  • Mizmedina // January 22, 2009 at 1:54 am | Reply

    Hi Nappyme!

    I have read the blog posts and hopefully no one asked this question already. But I am in the transition phase, 7 weeks out from my last relaxer (thanks to my sister’s encouragement) and I would like to know if there is any such product that I can use to care for my relaxed strands as well as my nappy ones.

    • nappyme // January 23, 2009 at 8:08 pm | Reply

      Hi there!
      I’m not an expert on transitioning cause I didn’t wear my own hair out, I did it under microbraids and trust me when I say I didn’t take very good care of my hair. I’m going to refer you to Nappturality.com’s transitioners forum. You’re certain to get some good answers there.

      Good luck and congrats on going natural!
      ~Nappyme

  • Kristi // February 21, 2009 at 2:15 am | Reply

    Hi Nappyme,

    Thanks so much for all the wonderful information. My husband and I adopted our beautiful daughter Savannah, who’s now 3, and I’ve been really struggling with her hair. It’s very course and has a very tight curl pattern…which means it’s also dry. I haven’t found that “product” yet that moisturizes enough. I’m excited to try some of the homemade recipes and am encouraged by the fact that I am doing things correctly. Thanks too for the awesome step by step directions for different hair styles. I’m going to try some new looks.

    Thanks again,
    Kristi

    • nappyme // February 21, 2009 at 7:36 am | Reply

      You’re so incredibly welcome. I’m so glad that you’re not discouraged and are willing to try different things on your daughter’s hair. You’ll find something. I remember my sister going through the same thing with her own daughter. Then one day she picked up a product she’d never tried before (can’t remember what it was) and “bam” it’s exactly what her child’s hair had been craving. So don’t give up cause there’s something out there that will mos def do what you need it to do. And I’m so glad you are enjoying the step-by-step instructions. Please stop back by and let me know how they work out if you decide to try them.

      Take care and God bless,
      ~Nappyme

  • mystery // March 19, 2009 at 11:40 am | Reply

    Hello!!

    I am so glad I found your site. I have been natural for at least 2 years and I am STILL searching for the right product to moisterize my hair which still leaving it light. I have very think and coarse hair. Wish I have a more curly texture :(

    Anyway, I really don’t like oil on my hair either. I have used organic root olive oil hair lotion and it really didn’t do anything for me. I just started using silk elements Revive and Restore Anti-Breakage Hair Repair Creme which works pretty well but starts to leave a residue after about 5 days which I don’t like.

    I just bought some curl activator gel and put it on my hair last night before I braided it. I undid it this morning and it seems to be doing pretty good I guess. Lol.

    But really two years plus is a long time to me to still be looking for products. I thought about trying Miss Jessies products. I really don’t know…Maybe I should make my own stuff…?

    Most of the natural people that I know have really curly hair or locks. So that really doesn’t help. :(

    I know I sound a mess. Lol. But I really want to get to where I love the feel and texture of my hair. Any suggestions?

    Thank you much!!

  • Ashley // April 4, 2009 at 10:22 am | Reply

    Hi. I’ve been natural for about two years now. When I decided to try the natural thing I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I just knew that I had to turn away from relaxers. They really damaged and thinned my hair.
    However, nowadays even though my hair is thicker and harsh chemicals free (sulfates, parabens, petrolatum, mineral oil, etc) it is VERY DAMAGED!!! I know that this is because I had no idea of how to take care of this hair that it started breaking, falling out, and just wouldnt retain any moisture.
    Now that I’ve learned a little about nappy hair care (Thanks to your site!) I would like to know if combining glycerin/water and rosemary oil would help my situation? Im thinking that combing would be easier if my hair was moisturized correctly and not dry and brittle.

    • nappyme // April 4, 2009 at 3:09 pm | Reply

      Hi Ashley,
      Congrats on being natural for two years. That’s great and I’m glad you’re learning how to take care of your hair. One thing you need to know about combing highly textured hair, is that you never want to comb it dry. That is asking for disaster. Never, never, never comb your hair dry. Back when I was still using combs and brushes on my hair, I only did so while I was washing my hair under running water either totally saturated with shampoo and conditioner. Even if you’re not washing it, always saturate it your moisturizer before you comb and style your hair. Make sure you are using a wide tooth comb that doesn’t have seams or other jagged parts that can snag your hair. Use denman style brushes that don’t have balls on the tips of the bristles.

      As far as the water and glycerine and rosemary, you’ll just have to try it and see if your hair likes it. It’s all about trial and error. When you get a chance, check out motowngirl’s site at some of the homemade receipees and see if you wanna try anything.

      Hope some of this helps. Take care,
      ~Nappyme

  • naduri // July 14, 2009 at 7:17 pm | Reply

    hi , my bigest problem is i have just stop creaming my daughter hair 8 months ago .
    my problem is when i wash her hair after washing it turns hard and stiff nothing works on it for long , i tried the viniger but i find it leaves her hair very dry. right now i use organic olive oil grease , and a product call caantu with seems to be working for now , please help here in grand cayman it’s very hot and she sweats in her hair alot. hopefully to be natural all the way soon she has about a fot of natural hair.

    • nappyme // July 15, 2009 at 9:58 am | Reply

      Hi Naduri,
      You may need to get away from grease and mineral based products. Also make sure you’re using nonsulfate shampoos. Look for ingredients on the label as SLS and LS and if they’re listed, then they contain sulfates, which are really harsh cleansers that strip the hair of natural oils. Once you stop using sulfate shampoos, you can eliminate conditioners from your routine and head straight for the moisturizer. I use a product called Proline Lite Creme moisturizer right after shampooing and that works out just fine. Keeps my hair soft and moisturized. Reapply when the hair starts to look dry — not feel dry.

      Try this and see what happens.

      Take care and good luck
      ~Nappyme

  • Ebonie // August 12, 2009 at 6:24 pm | Reply

    LOVE your Site!

    Thank God above I found you! I have been wearing my hair natural for eight months now. I had always relaxed (and dare I admit colored) my hair and I can tell you I had no retained hair growth. Everytime I relaxed my hair I had substaintial thick new growth and yet my hair never seemed to get any longer. My hair just broke off as quick as it grew. My hair now that it is natural finally has retained length BUT…My hair is crazy dry. Thanks to your advice, I now know why, but…
    Question:
    My scalp is very itchy, especially in the top and crown of my hair. I have tried everything. It itched so bad that it is sore and tender. I do not see any dandruff. I have tried several medicaded shampoos and sprays designed to stop itchy scalp nothing works. What can I do to stop this horrible itch.

    Thanks

    • nappyme // August 12, 2009 at 10:05 pm | Reply

      Thank you. I went through the same thing as well as horrible bouts of breakage through the years. Going natural and then then learning how to care for and style my hair has been the best thing I could have done. Being natural totally rocks!

      As for as your itchies, you might try a peppermint shampoo. It’s very soothing and has a tingly feeling that feels like a bunch of little comb teeth lightly scratching your scalp. Make sure it has all natural ingredients and absolutely NO SULFATES. Aubrey Organics is a good line as is JASON. You can google their websites to check out their product listings and ingredients. Also, hop over to motowngirl.com and check out the list of essential oils and how to use them. Quite a few have properties that can soothe a dry itchie scalp. Then if all else fails, I think you need to go see a dermatologist and let them prescribe something to alleviate the itchies.

      Hope that helps. Take care,
      ~Nappyme

  • Syrel // August 21, 2009 at 10:51 pm | Reply

    Thank you for your weblog, Nappyme. Lots of great stuff. I’m wondering if you have recommendations for folks with extremely dry hair. Oils don’t work; so I’ve given them up. (Shea butter works, but it’s too gummy, and oils make my perimenopausal skin erupt in painful pimples.)

    Glycerin didn’t work–unless I used it incorrectly. (I guessed at how to use it.) It’s tough finding leave-in moisturizers without oil or protein. I’m using a mix of aloe, Cream of Nature leave-in conditioner and a bit of instant moisturizing conditioner. Works ok, but doesn’t last all day. I’ve trolled a few beauty supply store, but strangely, I can’t find many leave-in moisturizing conditioners. I welcome your suggestions.

    And for Ebonie–my lifelong dandruff and horribly itching scalp vanished unexpectedly a week or so after I stopped using shampoos with sulfates and started conditioner washing instead.

    Thank you again for all your help, Nappyme.
    Syrel

    • nappyme // August 22, 2009 at 5:11 pm | Reply

      Hi Syrel,

      Thank you very much. Glad you like my blog. Also good to know that your itchie scalp cleared up.

      With regard to moisturizing, did you try your own glycerin mixture or a product that has a water/glycerin mix? I recommend the latter. There are many good, inexpensive products out there. My staple is Pro Line Lite Creme Moisturizer. Also try any clear gel curl activator. They’re lite and won’t flake and moisturize well. Be very generous in your initial application; your hair will dry, but not feel dry. It should feel very soft supple and pliable. In the heat of the summer you should only have remoisturize maybe once every three days or so.

      Hope that helps and good luck!

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