Out of the Mouths of Nappy Babes, “There’s no such thing as good or bad hair”
My niece gets it. Thank God she gets it. I’ve been having these side conversations with her about the concept of self-acceptance and how that relates to loving our nappy hair the way it grows out of heads. So just a few minutes ago, I was playing with my moms twists. She stopped pressing her hair several years ago and now wears her hair completely natural. This is NOT at all by choice. She has chronic lung disease and is on oxygen. Her hair is thinning. So with that, she grudgingly stopped pressing her hair — and as a nappy, it’s absolutely gorgeous.
Well tonight, I was playing with her silvery twists. Her hair is soooooo long and sooooo soft. They feel like silk. So me and my sister were commenting on how soft her hair was. And then she said it…again.
“Yeah, it’s like she has good hair.”
Me: Bug eyes.
My niece from the dining room where she’s doing her homework. “Mom, stop saying that. There’s no such thing as good and bad hair.”
My mom: “Oh shut up.”
My sister: “I’m not going to argue with a 12-year-old. That’s good. Whatever you want to believe.”
Me: Total silence.
My mom: “Well that is true but… (gets interrupted by my niece)
My Niece talking to my sister: “Cause you know what I’m saying is true.”
My sister: “Whatever you want to think…it’s ok.”
I fix my moms twists back like she had them and then gravitate back out to the dining room. Had to tell my niece to give it up cause you’re dealing with a very deeply ingrained attitude about the notion of good and bad hair. Told her her mom might NEVER understand that there’s no such thing.
My niece, wide-eyed with conviction and inoncense all wrapped into one then said, “I was just stating a fact.”
Can’t tell ya how proud of her I am when it comes to this business of nappy hair and self acceptance. She just totally gets it, and that’s good.