So Don Imus…Why we gotta be hos?

Yeah, I’m nappy…but I aint a ho damit! 

Ok… by now you’re probably aware of the controversy over Dumbass Ignoramous, MSNBC’s shock jock, who had a conversation about the Rutger’s women’s basketball team in which he referred to them as nappy-headed hos. (Now honestly, does Ignoramous even know the difference between nappy hair and permed hair?)  I suspect not. Well, if you haven’t heard…it’s ok, sometimes I live under a rock and don’t get out much either. Truth be told, I just found out about it today.

Anywho, I decided to go forth and read some articles to catch up on the controversy. Here’s some good ones on the Media Matters website. Also has some good related links as well.

So, after reading all of that and even finding and listening to what he said on yet another site, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m pretty speechless on this topic. Ok yeah right you say. Well, here’s the deal. I’m tired of having to be up in arms everytime some dumb ass white person says some stupid, ridiculous racist remark. Then all they have to do is say I’m sorry, and then the white establishment pats them on their head and says, “You know, just don’t do that again… Ok…well, you can do it just as long as they can’t hear you.” To make matters worse in this case, he’s a serial offender and a serial apologizer to boot.

See Ignoramous makes MSNBC a whole lot of money, so the biggest breaking news out of this story today is that they suspended him for two weeks. See there’s that pat on the head I was talking about. Are we at all surprised? I know you’re pissed about it, but are you surprised?

Ok… now you’ve read this far and you say, wait a minute. Nappyme, are you only upset about being called a ho…what about the nappy-head part.

Well to that I say, nope, uh-uh…not in the least bit offended. My online persona is Nappyme…how in the heck, why in the heck would I ever be offended at being called nappy headed? I’m proud to be a nappy-headed black woman in America — I jus ain’t no ho.

Ok… I guess I’m not as speechless as it thought.

Well then I run across MSNBC’s media comment contact information. MSNBC
One MSNBC Plaza
Secaucus, N.J. 07094
MSNBC contacts

Now this part just kills me…

When contacting the media, please be polite and professional. Express your specific concerns regarding that particular news report or commentary, and be sure to indicate exactly what you would like the media outlet to do differently in the future.

So here’s the email I sent:
Take Imus fucking off the air.

There. Now imagine that I said that as politely as Imus did when he called those young women nappy-headed hos. I said that as politely as possible as I speak up for all African American women and indeed all women of color all around the world. We are sick and tired of being sick and tired of having to go through this.

When will enough be enough. Damn his “good” works on behalf of Sickle Cell Anemia. We don’t need ’em from someone like him.

He has made his views about how he feels about black women CLEAR ENOUGH. He has no respect for us. He repeatedly goes too far and he makes his repeated apologies and he repeatedly gets to keep his job. WTF. WTF. What does he have to say to get his ASS fired.

How much more of his behavior must we endure?


I’m soo tired.

A Polite, Proud Nappy Headed Black Woman who most definitely is not a HO!

Ok… Then I got a little beside myself and sent a second email. Here’s what I said in that one:

Imus, yo mama’s a ho.

Oh wait a minute. Let me say that a little more politely.

Imus, your mother is a whore.

Well, now I know what you’re going to say, Nappyme don’t stoop to his level. And you’re right. I shouldn’t have have called his mama a ho. I should have called her a scraggly-headed winch ho instead. Ok… just kidding. (Sorta.)

Dag…did I just go there. I did. And at the moment, I make no appologies for saying what I really feel on this subject.

Here’s a related thought.

I said before I’m not offended by his use of the term nappy-headed. The problem I have with him using it is that HE was doing so as a derogatory term. So inspite of the fact that I’m not personally bothered by it, I am concerned about his INTENT. However, you know that for folks out there, nappy is a bad thing, so wow, being called a nappy-headed ho is a double whammy.

What is really interesting is that you know dang well, he’s only saying stuff that a lot of white people think anyway. Notice I didn’t say ALL white people. When I was first starting my career out, I always jumped at the chance to travel on company business. I started off as a training specialist and later moved into technical writing for a company in Ohio. Since I had a training background I often ended up creating training programs from my own technical documentation. That meant traveling to client sites around the country with my white co-workers. As the only black in our department, I quickly grew tired of traveling with white folks simply because after work, inevitably, some fool would make some off color racist remark after having a few drinks. Now here’s the deal, you don’t SAY those types of things unless you THINK them to begin with. I quickly found out that was going to happen most anytime I went out and socialized with white co-workers after hours for whatever reason. Over the years, I just started declining after work invitation. Decided to always have something else to do that I ALREADY made plans for.

Another related topic…
Now you know how white folks will ask on occasion, what do you prefer to be called “Black” or “African American?”

My friend was telling me how one of her coworkers always responds. He says, “Just call me whatever you’d call me at home.”

laugh.gif Dang…I’ma have to use that one, one of these days.

Ok…one last thing,

I saw a poll on MSNBC that asked:

What should happen to Don Imus after his remarks about the
Rutgers women’s basketball team?   
* 29114 responsesHe should be fired — there’s no excuse for what he said

The two-week suspension is enough
A suspension is too much. He’s a shock jock, this is what he’s paid for.

Now I ask again… are you surprised? Me? You already know my answer is hell-to-the-naw, I ain’t surprised. Black women just can’t seem to get no r-e-s-p-e-c-t.



3 Responses to “So Don Imus…Why we gotta be hos?”
  1. mscocontxus says:

    Nappyme, you are my internet hero! I love how you speak the truth without sugarcoating it. I too sent an email to MSNBC. I too spoke in a nice but very blunt tone. I’m none to pleased about dumbass..oops I mean Imus and his coworker’s ignorant racist behavior. This is not the first time he’s shown his ignorance. However, I’m concerned more for the young women, as they have done nothing but achieve & excel at each chosen endeavor. They certainly didn’t deserve his racist tirade. AGAIN, like you “nappy headed” doesn’t not bother me, but must we continue to be called HOS? I don’t support rap music because of this vernacular & I won’t support his advertisers when I find out who they are. The one thing that upsets me EVERY TIME is: Why can’t black women get respect? As a whole, we are constantly disrespected, and I’m sick and tired of having to deal with disrespect. So Mister Ignoramus is feeling the brunt of our ire at this time & does he deserve it, YES! And then some.

  2. nappyme says:

    Hey mscoco!
    Thanks for dropping by. I liked your letter too! Girrrrllll. His two-week vacation is nothing more than a cooling off period. They’re hoping the controversy will die down by then. I’m hoping not!

    He will forever more be know to me as Don Ignoramous. In fact, I’m changing his name to Dumbass Ingnoramous. That’s much more fitting…don’tcha think?

  3. inmynature says:

    Actually from what I heard on the radio (and to my delight) is that the Station is taking his show off their air, as well as a number of sponsers have discontinue their support…..

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