Hair bands are doing my niece’s edges in…
Ok… I know I said I was done trying to educate my niece. But today, she was sitting in a chair, and so I had a bird’s eye view of her hairline. She’s taller than me now so I don’t often get to see the top of her head anymore. And just what did I see? Some very, very thin edges. Now here’s the thing. I had a heart-to-heart talk with her last fall and told her to stop wearing those damned elastic hair bands around her edges. She was using them to hold her edges down AND as a fashion statement. Cute yes, but very detrimental to her hairline as well.
Ok, so I’m looking at her hairline, and I had to do an “I told you so.” My prediction about her hair is coming to fruition. Now if her ass wasn’t soo damned headstrong, she wouldn’t have to deal with having short edges to lay down in the first place. The only reason her hairline was so short was because she shaved them off a couple of years ago because she didn’t like the shape. One day, I’m looking at her straight on in the face, and I’m thinking her face somehow looks BIGGER. When I ask her about it, my sis yells from the other room…”Tell Auntie, what you did.”
That’s when she informs me that she shaved it, front, sides and back. I ask why. She explains that she hates the really fine hair that grows down her face (we’d call that sideburns) and she hates the hair that sorta grows further down her neck. It bebes up, and she hates that too. (She got all that from her dad’s side cause none of us have that). So she took her dad’s straight-edged razor and shaved everything off.
So now she takes to using these dang elastic headbands to hold her hair down. She’s got them in all colors and widths to match all of her many outfits. I warned her they would take her hair out. Sigh… Mom’s oblivious to alla this. Ok… so add this to the fact that she wants a relaxer and in no time, she’ll be one of those women whose hairline starts behind their ears and has really short hair and HAS to wear a wig/weave/fake braids because of their horrendous hair care practices in childhood.
It doesn’t make sense y’all because I know better, I’m telling her better, but I’m powerless to stop it. I MIGHT mention it to my sister, but I think she thinks I’m just obsessed with natural hair (which I am) but she really thinks that I don’t know what I’m talking about. I’m just hopping mad and really frustrated because the condition of her hair does NOT have to be. I told her today that she needs to ditch those damn headbands once and for all. But I also told her that it was the last time I was going to say anything to her about it. She nodded, but couldn’t wait to change the topic, and tell me about her track meet. I just mentally throw my hands up.
She’s quite animated as she tells me about her first-ever track competition figuring she’s off the hot seat about her hair I guess. I’m thinking what I said went in one ear and out the other. Oh well… I’m sure the next time I see her she’ll have a hairband on. But my lips are sealed… She’s the type of person that has to experience life to believe what you tell her. That is typical of most teens I suppose. The only thing I can do is to give her the information, and she has to decided what to do with it. Her mom should make her stop cause at 13 she doesn’t know what’s best for her. But apparently mom is clueless as well.
I sigh again cause it ain’t likely to get better anytime sooner. If she listens to anything I say, it’ll be a miracle.