Grown and Sexy Plaits! Ok… Box Braids to Y’all Youngins…
Move along HC folks…there’s nothing to see here…
For the time being, I regret that I’ve had to take down one of my posts because some members of a particular hairboard have decided that they don’t like one of my hairstyles…the box braids I was wearing in this particular post. Someone has taken it upon themselves to visit my blog and go back to their general discussion forum and make fun of my hair. Then, they posted a link to my blog so that others could come and take a look and then go back to the board and continue to make fun of me and my hair.
I normally have a pretty thick skin, but I’ve been a cyberbully target on that board for several years for a variety of reasons which stem from my involvment on another hairboard. Nevertheless, I’ve never responded in kind, and I’ve never engaged anyone of them in a provcative manner. But apparently, no one is supposed to have an opinion about anything but them, and if you dare engage that opinion, or participate on other hairboards in a manner that doesn’t suit them, they put you in your place (or so they think) and then, unbeknownst to you, run back to this other hair board (probably others too) to talk about you like a dog and encourage others to do the same.
So how did I find out about this? Well…everytime someone visits me here, I can go to my control panel and see where on the internet they came from. In this case, over the past several days, I have tons of links from this hairboard so I followed one and found several nasty and recent posts that linked back to my post here on Nappturology 101. I finally had the courage to stand up to them, tell them how I feel and to report their posts to a moderator. The mod responded and reiterated their rules about this type of behavior, what’s allowed and what is not allowed on their hairboard and told them abide by my wishes and stop this foolishness. As grateful as I am that she has moved to put an end to this, it makes me sad that she and the owner of this site has allowed their hairboard to be used in such a malicious and toxic way when it’s apparently again their own rules.
Nevertheless, I thanked her for her prompt attention to this matter because quite frankly, she didn’t have to do ANYTHING to appease me. But still, if I had a dollar for every negative thing said about me on that site, I could go out and have a pretty darned expensive dinner and probably treat someone to a nice dinner taboot — and that bites.
Hopefully, the moderator has put an end to this madness on that hairboard. Obviously, it won’t stop them from taking it somewhere else, but perhaps they’ll leave it alone…for now. But cyber bullies (as do bullies off the net) almost always find an outlet for keeping mess going. And I’m almost not expecting this instance to be any different, but I’m hoping they’ll find other more constructive and uplifting ways to spend their time on the net.
Makes me tired just having to deal with this.
To all of you who have enjoyed my blog and supported my nappy journey over the past four years or so, I thank you very much! And thank you in advance for your continued support. In the meantime, I’ll just keep doing what I do, try and shake this all off and hold my head and my hair high with nappy pride. And I’ll damn well wear my version of box braids (or Miss Celie plaits) as a hair style if I damn well please…thank you very much!