Help: My Hair Isn’t Growing!

stretched hair 

Sure it is. Hair grows…period. Unless your follicles are damaged, you’re taking certain medications or you’re just not in good health, your hair is growing out of your scalp. Now once it’s out there, how you take care of it will determine how much length your retain.

Here are some quick simple facts for you with regard to hair growth. Some of these facts are covered in more depth in their own topics.

  • On average, hair grows four to six inches a year. That breaks down to about a third to a half inch of growth a month. Since this is an average, your hair may grow slower or faster depending on your overall health and genetics.
  • We shed approximately 50-100 hairs per day
  • Nappy hair is actually the most fragil of all hair types. As it grows it relentlessly twists and turns, and in every bend in the hair shaft is a potential weak spot. That’s why it breaks so easily, and learning how to care for nappy hair is the secret to growing really long hair.
  • Hair growth goes through three stages.
  • Growing — hair is actively growing from the scalp.
  • Resting— hair is no longer actively growing and is just sitting on your scalp.
  • Shedding — hair dies at the root, and a new one is waiting to take it’s place. If all of our hair grew, rested and shed at the same time, there would be periods throughout our lives when we’d be quite bald!
  • Lifespan of hair: 3 to 7 years
  • Hair grows faster in warm weather. I’ve researched this, and can’t find a good explanation as to why this is so.
  • Having dirty hair or a dirty scalp does not make your hair grow.
  • Cutting hair does not influence its growth. We’re often led to believe that trimming our hair makes it grow. This is so incredibly not true. Only your health and genetics influence hair growth. Trimming raggedy ends improves appearance, can improve manageabilty by preventing your ends from tangling so much and can prevent split ends from worsening. This in turn will enabling you to retain more of the hair you grow and gain length.
  • The cuticle is the outer layer of the hair. It protects the interior Cortex layer and contributes to 20% of the overall strength of the hair.
  • The cortex is the middle layer and gives the hair strength and elasticity. A healthy cortex contributes about 80% of the overall strength of the hair.
  • The medulla is the innermost layer. It is sometimes absent from the hair but plays a very minor role in the haircoloring process.
  • The larger the diameter of a hair shaft, the fatter it is. As a result, hair can be either fine, medium or thick in diameter.
  • Density is the number of hairs per square inch and can range from thin to thick. So for instance someone can have really fine hair, but a lot of it in terms of density. Or someone can have hair a lot of hair (in terms of density) that’s very thick (in diameter).
  • Porosity is the ability of the hair to absorb moisture. (Most nappy hair is very porous) Mine sucks it up like a sponge.
  • Hair is not living tissue — it’s dead. It can’t regenerate or repair itself once it’s damaged. There are products on the market that kinda hold it together for a little while…but damaged hair will eventurally break. Split ends just need to get cut off before they get worse.
110 Responses to “Help: My Hair Isn’t Growing!”
  1. Rossana says:

    Hello… I have extremely porous hair, which I colour at the roots every 4-6 weeks to cover the gray. My hair is curly and looks great in the Summer and starts to look like string in the Fall and Winter. It’s a nightmare!

    The problem is that it is extremely porous.

    I have tried expensive salons, expensive products – no difference. It NEVER changes.

    Can you recommend anything for my problem? ANYTHING?

     Hi Rossana, (10/09/06)
    Nappy hair, and chemically treated hair, be it dyed, relaxed or heaven forbid both all have one thing in common — issues with porosity. In the case of nappy hair like mine, it twists and turns as it grows, which makes it virutally impossible for my hair’s cuticles to lay flat. These cuticles, like shingles on a roof , are what protect the cortex, the inner core of your hair. The cortex is where all your moisture is stored. But open cuticles act like open doors and windows, which makes it pretty hard for your cortex to retain moisture, and that’s why nappy hair is inherently dry. You add permanent color/and or a relaxer into the mix and you have compounded the issue of dryness immeasureably. 

    One thing you gotta remember about permanent color…no matter what people say, permanent color is damaging. The chemicals are designed to lift your cuticles and deposit color…those deposits swell the hair shaft and lift your cuticles even more.  Some people just live with the damage and jump through extra hoops to keep it moisturized and prevent brittleness and breakage. Some other folks aren’t that lucky, the color can leave their hair soo dry and brittle that their only recourse is to cut the color out.

    In your case, sounds like you’re dealing with seasonal issues of dryness. Your current regimen isn’t working as well as we head into the winter months. Off the top of my head, I can think of a couple of things you could try to combat your moisture retention issues.

    Try a porosity correction shampoo. Basically, these shampoos are designed to balance your hair’s ph levels and close your cuticles. Look for Roux brand. I know you can find it at Sally. Nutralizing shampoos are designed to do the same thing…promote the closure of your cuticles. If I understand correctly, it’s not necessary to use these shampoos more than once a month to get the desired results.

    One thing you can do everytime you wash your hair is to finish off with a cool water rinse…this too will help close up your cuticles. I started doing this myself , and I have noticed a big difference in the way my hair feels after I shampoo…even after it has dried. It’s more soft and pliable. I’ve also heard you can use various things on your hair like lemon juice or vinegar to help close up your cuticles as well.

    Are you a member of Nappturality? If not, I recommend it wholeheartedly. There was an excellent discussion on porosity shampoos not too long ago…simply click here to read it.

    I hope some of this helps. Good luck and take care.



  2. stella says:

    I have very soft hair and curly. It gets very dry when I had locs and dident. Its natural for 5 yrs now love it but I went to a locticiton she treated it so good but it still looked dryed out even with oil is this because it is not chemicalized?or because I am really physically sick with kidney failure?I want to loc it again but I am part afraid that it will look brittel.

  3. nappyme says:

    Hi Stella,
    I’m sorry to hear about your health issues. I’m certainly no doctor, but it is a fact that our health and the medications we take can affect our hair. Now whether this is the case in your instance, I’d leave for a doctor to say for sure.

    As far what you can do to remedy your dryness issues will largely depend on your hair because different types respond to different products and so it really ends up being a matter of trial and error. You say you have curly hair…but do you mean tight nappy hair like mine or naturally loose curly hair. It’s hard to get a handle on what to recommend without at least seeing a picture or having a better description of what your hair looks like. Sooooo…

    I’m going to point you to a couple of different forums on where I think you may be able to get much better hair advice with regard to your moisture issues, your hair type and maybe even your how your health maybe affecting your hair. That way, you can at least post your question and have a good ongoing discussion with folks that may have similar experiences.
    Locs Discussion
    Health and Wellness Discussion
    Napptural Hair Discussion

    Thanks for visiting Nappturology 101. Good luck with finding something that works!

  4. Cooyah says:

    “Hair grows faster in warm weather. I’ve researched this, and can’t find a good explanation as to why this is so. ”

    In response to this, I have my own working explanation which is more than likely 80% incorrect but bear with me.

    We know our hair loves humidity (nappy hair) because it helps keep our moisture level up and will swell you hair cuticle. Now in the climate I’m from (Jamaica) it is HOT for 9 months out of the year, warm for 1 and slightly cooler in February. With that much warmth surrounding a scalp on a daily basis it opens follicles and helps to stimulate said follicles (much like peppermint, eucalyptus, etc.).

    That stimulation helps boost the productivity level of our follicles helping with the growth. Cold weather always closes my follicles tighter than a black power fist and slows my progress down tremendously and the only thing I have found that helps in the cooler US winters is a humidifier from Wal Mart for about $20. I use it at night when I sleep and it works great for my skin also. Nothing will suck the moisture out of your hair and skin like “dry” cold and heat.

    Now this is not true for all people and it also depends what the heat quality is during the warm period. In the desert areas where the climate is a “dry” heat, it can be detrimental to your hair because it dries your hair out and there is no humidity (aka moisture) to help with the checks and balances.

    That’s my take on it, could be wrong though so please no one take it as gospel. I’m learning with you. :}

  5. Shirley Fountain says:

    yes I have very dry dead hair .I have always bleached my hair my bangs and sides will grow but the back hasnt grew in five years .dry course hair runs in my family. I would love to have long hair and soft hair I have dry skin but I don’t know if that has any baring on my hair not growing I don’t retain water please help any suggestion

  6. nappyme says:

    Hi Shirley,
    Yes, your hair is growing. But if you don’t take care of it well, it will not retain length. However, you do also have to know that people experience different rates of growth sometimes on different parts of their head. I have a friend whose hair always seems to be shortest in the back. Quite frankly, her hair just grows really slowly in this area. This could be true for you as well.

    As far as your dry hair is concerned, if you bleach your hair you’re doing ONE of the worse things that you could possibly do to your hair to sap your hair of precious moisture. Try reading all the articles under Top Tips for Nappy Hair on Nappturology 101. All of them are centered around things you can do to stop depleting your hair of moisture and start doing things that will help your hair retain it instead.

    Moisture is ABSOLUTELY essential to having a healthy head of hair.

  7. JAH says:


  8. nappyme says:

    Hi JAH,
    Welcome to Nappturology 101. I cannot say I know anything about locs. But I can tell you your hair is growing or you’d be bald. But how fast your hair grows and length retention work hand-in-hand when it comes to seeing any progress with your growth. Also, I would have to say that I don’t understand the nappy shrinkage factor either when it comes to locs.

    If you’re not already a member, I’m going to suggest that you join There’s an excellent loc forum where I’m sure you could get all of your questions answered.

    Sorry I could be of more help, but I do wish you much success on your loc journey.

    Take Care,

  9. BROOKE says:

    hello. i have very damaged hair. i straightin it everyday (i kno thats bad) but i cant do anything else to it. i use this protein spray on my hair everytime i get out of the shower.. i havent seen my hair grow for the past year and a half now. i need hair tips or something ..please help!
    thank you!

  10. nappyme says:

    Hi Brooke,
    I got a joke for you…umm…I hope you have a good sense of humor.

    A man goes to the doctor. He says, doctor, doctor, I get a sharp pain in my arm when I move it like this.

    The doctor looks at him and say, then don’t move your arm like that any more.
    Ok…I’m not real good at telling jokes. But the point is, you tell me you have damaged hair AND you straighten it AND you know that’s bad for it. So you really know the answer to your problem…right?

    Stop putting heat on your hair.

    Ok so really, you need to examine what your hair goals are. Quite frankly, if you want to wear your hair in natural hair styles, heat and nappy just don’t mix. And even if you don’t, as you can see, heat is very damaging anyway. And you say you use it EVERY day? Wow. You can’t possibly be surprised that your hair is damaged.

    But you say you’re pressing your hair everyday because you don’t know what else to do with it. I do understand what you’re saying. When I was pressing my hair (not every day mind you) I was doing so cause I didn’t know what else to do with my hair either.

    If you want to stop pressing your hair and wear it naturally, you’re going to have to be proactive and learn how to care for nappy hair. That, Brooke, is going to take some time and patience. I suggest that you join and use it as a resource to learn how to wear, care for and embrace your nappy hair. Learning to love your hair is also a mindset change. If you’re used to seeing yourself as beautiful with straight hair, trust me, it’s gonna take some time for you to learn to see beauty in your naps. That change in thinking does not happen miraculously over night. Years later, some women are still struggling with nappy love.

    Here are some other sites that can help you on your journey towards nappturality:

    So go check out these resources. Also, check out the nappy tutorial videos on my site (see the top of this page) that can help you learn to style and maintain your hair. If you wanna be true to your naps there are plenty of resources out there. You just have to seek them out and then apply what you’ve learned.

    Good luck on your napptural journey.

    Take Care,

  11. Iris says:

    hi im 18 and im mixed(spanish and african american) when i was little my hair stayed past my but but it was extremely thick and curly. By the time i got to junir high i cut it up to my back thenshoulder length. Then i wanted a perm. After i id a perm my hair grow back but then as i got to highschool my sides began to lose hair. and thi continued. Now my saids are baling and my hair seems thinner than it used to be. But my sides are worst. what can i do to help the growth

  12. wallula says:

    I have curly hair and it sits just at shoulers length. My problem is that it’s been like that for the past 4 yrs. I’ve had it trimmed and had treatments etc, and nothing seems to make it grow. I’d really love my long curls back. Can you please help?

  13. nappyme says:

    Hi Wallula and welcome to Nappturology 101. I need more information from you sis. Are you a tightly coiled nappy like me? Or is your hair more wavy nappy or curly nappy? What are your products? How do you style your hair? Are you using heat on your hair or do you wear it totally natural?

    I can’t really give you any advice until you give me some additional information.

    When you get a chance, why don’t you email me at We’ll do this via regular email rather than here on Napp 101.


  14. EDNA says:

    Hello, I, Edna, love you website, but, I need help now as a 50 year old women. I do a cw, with suave conditioner, maybe every two weeks. It seems what ever oil I use, my hair tends to break or tear out. I stopped and just finger comb and use conditioner and water, with fingers only now. I am a 4B and some 3b in certain areas. I just want healthy hair again, even as I age gracefully. Thank you, I do have 11-1/2 inch hair, very long and tanglely. I really can’t complain except its a little thin, not too too thin, but it is in the front. I have been enjoying my nappy hair since 1990. I have always adored beautiful hair, so I considered a hair person. If you can suggest what to use on my ends without it breaking I will be most appreciated, I have tried lots of essential oils and cremes, and nothing seems to work on this type hair for me. Thanking you in advance., Peace Edna

  15. nappyme says:

    Hi Edna!
    Welcome to Nappturology 101. Of all the things that I can give advice on, unfortunately conditioner washing is one area that I have bothered to learn much about.

    But I do know that co-washing will eventually leave build up in your hair. Then you need to clairfy to get the build up out. That, combined with the oil may be what’s causing the brittleness.

    So try that. Go get a clarifying product to shampoo your hair with and then use that whenever your hair stops acting the way it should. Also, after you clarify, you’ll probably want to make sure you do a deep conditioning treatment.

    Also, I’m not a big fan of finger combing…you’ve got to get that shed hair out. When you don’t that helps contribute to tangles…at least it does for me.

    But I also think that more tangles go with the territory of having longer nappy hair, which is one of the reasons that I stay in protective styles most of the time. If I want to minimize the tangles and the knots and the breakage and continue to gain length, wearing my hair out that much is not an option.

    Plus, I’m lazy as heck and although it’s time consuming to put my hair into protective custody, at least I don’t have to fool with it for weeks on end afterwards.

    I hope I’ve answered some of you concerns. You might want to consider joining cNappymeNow. If 4b, undefined, cottony nappy hair is your predominant hair type, I think you’ll enjoy CNN as we affectionately call it.

    Here’s the link:

    So try some of my suggestions and hopefully, I’ll see you on CNN too.

    Good luck!

  16. Jerrie-Ann says:

    hey nappyme
    I am soooooooo happy to fine your site its like a dream come true. I have had nappy hair since I can remember..I never did anything to them. I used petroluem products in my hair all my life since thats what every one around me uses and now i have found your site I think I am going to change to used those mositurizers you spoke of. I am going to graduate in june 2007 and I was about to perm my hair but after seeing this site I think I’ll leave it just the way it is.

    I have two questions….ummm the first one is how often do you wash your hair cause I thought dirt grows hair and second is ‘Fantasia ic moisturizer hair lotion’ a good product for nappy’s? this product has in pure tea extract, mineral oil, glycerine etc..

  17. nappyme says:

    Hi Jerrie-Ann,
    Well now I’m really happy you found NPP101
    Ain’t nothin’ that a perm can do fer ya but burn your scalp and ruin your hair!

    Bein’ nappy is definitely the way to go. Now let’s talk about dirt makin’ your hair grow…

    It’s a myth.

    I shampoo every two weeks. Some folks may shampoo more or less. It’s an individual preference that really depends on amount of product you use, whether or not you workout, do you get an itchie scalp that needs relieving…etc., etc., etc.

    But whether you shampoo every day or once ever two weeks or less, your rate of hair growth depends on your gentics and your overall health. How much length you gain depends on how well you take care of and treat your hair. If you don’t do things to promote breakage, you’ll likely retain length and experience long or longer hair. If not, you’ll break your hair off and it will be shorter.

    Get the picture. Dirty hair does not = growth.

    As far as Fantasia IC Moisturizer…I steer clear of anything that has mineral oil in it. Even if a product has essential oils in it, if it has mineral oil in or petroleum in it, leave it along. These two ingredients promote dryness.

    They’re cheap so that’w why you can find them in most products.

    Hope this helps.
    Take care and stay nappy!

  18. Vanisa says:

    I’m a 57 year old african american woman, my problem is that my hair is falling, I’m on medication for high blood pressure, acid flux, naprosen for my lower back pain, and I am over weight. I am ashamed of my hair, do you have any suggestion

  19. nappyme says:

    Hi Vanisa, please email me at Are you natural? How are you taking care of your hair? Let’s chat. Ok?

  20. Kitina says:

    Let me ask you, what do you think of hair transplants? My mom is losing her hair in the middle of her head. She has been to the dermatologist and they said that she has alopecia but her hair is thick and flowing on the sides, front and back. She is interested in getting a transplant, we wanted to knwo your opinion. Thanks

  21. kryssy says:

    Dear NappyMe
    Its been a real blessing finding your site, now ive looked at hair care in a totally new light. im 16, from the Bahamas and i have long, back curly hair. however, i dont know what hair products to use 2 keep my hair in the soft curls it acquires after shampooing it..becuz i dont like it 2 be tangled, and the products i buy usually dry it out (like certain mousses)
    Furthermore, thin edges at the front is quite hereditary in my family.. but how do i break the trend with thinning edges?which product is best for me?i used dr miracles, an it doesnt work.
    which products are beneficial for pretty curls, and which is good for thinning edges, and where can i get these products?

  22. nappyme says:

    Hi Kryssy,

    Unfortunately I don’t know a thing about curly hair. So, I’m going to refer you to a site called Also, with regard to your thinning edges, I’m going to point you to This site will have information about essential oils, some of which have properties that are supposed to stimulate your follicles. Also, one more referral. You might consider joining and ask your question on that forum as well. There are sooooo many women who have experienced thinning edges first hand, and have some measure of success in getting them to grow back that I’m sure if you post a question about your thinning edges you’ll get tons of responses and a whole lot of suggestions.

    Good luck!

  23. Sabh says:


    I have unhealthy hair, I don’t really know whether my hair is oily or not, and also it’s growing is too slowly, since than I have two questions;

    How coul I recognize my hair type?
    In which ways works with my hair in order to have a fast growing hair

  24. Andrea says:


    Just some advice and trust me not a promotion! I found that Wild Growth hair oil has been making my hair more manageable and shiny since I’ve been growing my hair natural. August 15th, 2006 I cut ALL my hair off, wore wigs, and said good bye to the perm. I take prenatal pills as a multi-vitamin, and use Pantene Pro V’s African American products in addition to the Wild Growth hair oil, and Doo Gro’s leave-in conditioner.

    Now I don’t know if it’s the products that I use as to why my hair is growing, but in my opinion, water is an excellent, easily accessible moisturizer for my hair. I am mixed with nada! I am 100% black and nothing inbetween. My hair is really curly, and the curls turn into knots when they dry.

    I’m no doctor, but I did speak with my gynecologist about taking prenatals and she told me that it is the best multi-vitamin a woman can take, pregnant or not. But I suggest you check with yours too…don’t want nobody to come hunting me down if they become more fertile!

    Another thing that I do is I do not put heat on my hair at all! However, I do wear wigs if I want a different style. I am considering getting a dominican blowout for Thanksgiving. They straighten natural or permed hair very well and it lasts a long time depending on the weather ofcourse. The products they use are great, and every person I know who goes to Dominican salons have really long hair! Black, Hispanic, whateva!

  25. nappyme says:

    Hi Sabh,
    Check this link for information on hair types

    As far as how fast your hair grows, if you read the article then you know that everyone’s hair grows, and the rate growth is genetically predetermined so there’s nothing you can do to make it grow faster or slower.

    Good luck!

  26. nappyme says:

    Hi Andrea,

    I’ve heard nothing but good things about wild growth oil, so I’m glad you’re getting good results with that as well.

    With regard to heat straightening your hair, good luck with that. Heat is very damaging to nappy hair and it’s not uncommon for hair to not revert back to it’s original state after it’s been pressed or flat ironed.

    For that reason, I don’t advocate the use of heat on nappy hair, and I honestly started to delete that part from your comment.

  27. Denise says:

    hey miss nappyme,

    I am 16 years old and my hair is a DIASTER. i have been getting my hair relaxed since i was about 12 and it looks horrible. over the years i have been slowly destroying my hair so it went from shoulder length to a little past my ears. for the past 4 months i have decided to drop the curling iron and just mosturize. My problem is none of these mosturizes like motions and garnier frutic work for my hair. They make it really nappy,fine, and dry even thought i have a relaxer in and i have a bad case of flyaways. I would like to know if you have any solutions. I am trying to obtain healthy hair but i just do not know how.

  28. nappyme says:

    Denise, I can’t tell you anything about maintaining a relaxer. They’re simply not healthy for your hair and I never enjoyed a healthy head full of relaxed hair. Just simply wasn’t meant to be. Sounds like this is what you’re experiencing as well. Why not transition to natural. On the right side of this page under Categories is a link to Transition resources. They can help you get started on your natural journey. Hundreds of thousands of women all over the world are freeing themselves of relaxers and wearing their God given hair in all it’s beauty and glory…and you can too. Just gotta go for it. So check out the transition resources and you to can be on your way to enjoying lovely healthy nappy hair!

    Good luck!

  29. sam says:

    ok, so i have had the same hair length for about a year and a half. plus i just recently had a baby 4 months ago. and i had heard that MANY women have gotten longer hair over their 9 months mostly from taking the prenatal vitamins. well i took mine everyday. i really want long hair so bad. i use to dye my hair a lot when i was in high school but recently this past year i have done it only twice and i have tried so many different refferred products. i have tried the nioxin shampoo and conditioner, the nioxin pills, prenatal and biotin vitamins, gnc’s hair skin and nails, the F.A.S.T shampoo and i eat healthy!
    i also do get my split ends cut about every 4 months and i havent straigtened or blow dried my hair in the past 7 months! i dont know what to do and i dont want to get extensions i just want my own natural long hair. please give me ANY advice or words . i reallllly appreciate it.

  30. nappyme says:

    Sam I’m going to brain storm here. Your hair has been the same length for 18 months. You get split ends cut every four months. Ok…so you hair has to be growing cause if it wasn’t, your trims every four months would be making your hair get shorter and shorter.

    So my guess is that perhaps you’re triming too much off and perhaps getting trims to frequently. Also, with nappy hair, less is more. If you’re manipulating your hair frequently, it’s possible that you’re popping your ends off as fast as it’s growing. Add frequent triming to that and you’ve got a recipe for not retaining length.

    So once again, I’d say that it’s not about growth, it’s about retaining your ends so that you can realize the length.

    You’ve told me everything EXCEPT what your maintenance and styling routine is. So my advice is to find some protective styles that you can help you leave your hair along for weeks at at time to alleviate the stress you may be putting it through. Then I think you’ll start realizing and seeing some length.

    Good luck!

  31. Alexandria says:

    Hi! I’m Alex, and I’m 18 years old, and I have been trying to do something with my hair for years. I am multiracial, and usually around here, multi racial kids have really nice hair. Mine is… well…. its nice, when it wants to be. I am African/Native American, and European, and the European side of my family has a lot of hair, and it’s somewhat thick. The other side of my family has thick hair, but not a lot of it. SOOO O, of course I have a lot of thick hair. Last year, before senior prom, I started to grow my hair back, and it looked great. I had gotten something to soften up my curls, and I loved it. But of course prom came around, and we put a weave in my hair, so my momsy relaxed it, and keeps wanting to relax it because she doesn’t know what else to do with it.

    Now I love my mother, but she knows nothing about African American hair, because she isn’t African American. And frankly, I don’t think African Americans know much about their hair either, because I was at a salon, where they did amazing hair, and the dresser said its good to have your hair relaxed every month or so. It isn’t by the way.

    So I’ve decided, since I am an adult now, and I can start making my own decisions, I’ll start with my hair. I want to buzz all of my relaxed hair off. I do dye my hair, with temporary stuff. Everything I use is herbal and not chemicals, so all it can do is give my hair nutrients. So I’ll have short short curly hair. Is there anything that I should buy so that I can keep it nice, and avoid breakage?

  32. nappyme says:

    Hi Alexandria,
    Welcome to NPP101!
    You sound like you’re on the right track. Some of the best things you can do is to keep your hair properly moisturized, avoid permanent hair dyes and most of all stay away from heat styling. If you need tips on styling hair, you’re likely to find someone with hair like yours on, so if you’re not a member there, I’d say that would be a great place to start because you’ll be able to ask questions from other women many of whom are biracial and maybe able to best give you hair tips. You’ll also have access to tons of hair albums that you can stalk on the regular as well.

    Also, know that if you’re trying to retain length the less you manipulate your hair the better.

    One other thing, it’s a myth that our hair utilizes vitamins; it can’t. It’s dead, but it will thrive on moisture and if you like essential oils.

    I don’t have specific product recommendations though many people find that water and glycerin based products work well in their hair. Me personally, I opt for curl gel activator products. My hair absolutely loves the stuff. Could work for you…never know…so you may want to give it a try.

    Anyhoo, take care and thanks for stopping by!

  33. Dana C. says:

    Hi Mrs. Nappyme!! Im Dana and Im 21 years old. I have never permed my hair before and I hardly ever add heat to my hair. I like my hair braided mostly, HOWEVER I would like it to grow and it just does not seem to be doing that, which is the main reason why I try to keep it braided. Ive went a couple years without braiding it before and it still didnt grow. My hair has been short my whole life and it really sucks for me because I really can’t do anything with it accept braid it. I just want my natural hair to grow. I take care of my hair really well, and Im in pretty good health, and the only reason I can think of for it not growing because of my mother genetics. Most of the women on my mother side of the family have short hair. And sometimes within myself I be angry at her because I know I have her bad hair genes. Is there any pacific reasons for my hair not growing and what can I do or use to make it grow??

  34. nappyme says:

    Hi Dana,
    Welcome to NPP101!

    As much as some would like it to NOT be true, I do honestly believe that some measure of us are just not genetically desposed to having long hair. Yes…just shoot me somebody. But before you decide that you’re one of these folks, you might consider going to a dermatologist or someone that can do a hair and scalp analysis to see if maybe your follicles are clogged or if you have some type of condition that could be stunting your hair growth. You might also want to go to your regular doctor. Tell her/him your concerns and see if there are any tests that can be run to make sure you’re as healthy as can be. You need to rule out all medical causes for your lack of growth.

    Then, you can begin to try things that can encourage your hair to be as healthy as possible and help you retain your length. If you read the aritcle above, you know that some folks hair may not grow very fast or very long before it sheds naturally. And if you are someone who falls in this category, then yes, you may be predisposed to having naturally shorter hair.

    Then what? What if that is you? Then I say love your length for all it’s worth and learn to work with what God gave you. Short hair can be just as lovely as long hair so if you ultimately find that this is where you are in your journey, then come to terms and make peace with having naturally short hair. I have a friend who has never ever had really long hair either and quite frankly she’s one of the most gorgeous nappy women I know.

    And I’m sure you can be and most likely are a very beautiful black woman, who just happens to have short hair.

    You take care and God Bless. Come back and let me know what you decide to do.

    Thanks for stopping by.


  35. regina says:

    Hi Miss. Nappyme I was just thinking about getting braids, and as you know from my previous comment I have both color and a perm in my hair at the current time. I have been wearing glued in weaves for about two years and so my hair is not in the best condition and to get it back growing healthy I was considering getting braids. However my concern is; is braiding healthy for hair that has these two chemicals in it, if not what do you reccomend I do to get my hair strong and healthy again?

  36. nappyme says:

    Hi Regina!

    Hair has no regerative properties so the best you can do is try to temperarily strengthen it through periodic protein treatments and to keep it moisturized. But you’ll eventually have to cut the damaged hair off. When you choose to do that is up to you. If you want, you can do like I did. My hair was severely damaged from relaxing and so I just really didn’t care about it. I started getting braids and then once I got about four inches of new growth, I cut all the relaxer out and kept getting my hair braided. So I didn’t really even go through a period of having to adjust to short hair cause it was always under the cover of pounds of fake microbraids.

    Nearly four years later, I had a head full of natural hair that I have since learned how to take care of, style and love unconditionally.
    Soooo, I’ll just ask. Is your goal to go natural?
    If it is, I wouldn’t worry about your permed/colored hair. You’re going to have to cut it off at some point anyway. The key to braids is to make sure they’re not done too tightly, and that you don’t leave them hanging off your edges once your hair starts growing out. You can also go to site to get even more information about taking care of your hair while it’s in braids.

    Whatever you decide to do, good luck!

  37. jordan says:

    can your hair grow long with split ends?

  38. carla says:

    what are some inexpensive products that will put protein and moisture in the hair?

  39. regina says:

    Hi Nappyme, I visited like you sugested and they said if you have a lye perm than you cannot get braid extensions, because it will break off the permed hair severely. So waht should I do, what hair style can I wear that will not break the hair anymore?

  40. nappyme says:

    Hi Regina,

    My question again to you…are you trying to save your damaged permed hair? If you are, that’s an impractical goal. If it’s that’s damaged, what difference does it make if it does start breaking off, you need to get rid of it anyway. Damaged hair ultimately cannot be salvaged, it can be temporarily strengthened to help MINIMIZE breakage as you wait for your new hair to grow out to a comfortable length. I say braid away ’til your heart’s content and gradually cut away the damaged hair. Really, honestly sis, that’s about all you can do.

  41. nappyme says:

    Hi Jordan and Carla! Welcome to NPP101!
    Jordan, split ends are not a good thing. You’ll do better attempting to retain length by getting rid of your split ends. They’ll do nothing but tangle and split further up the shaft and thart your best efforts to grow long hair. So if you’ve got split ends, it’s best to say bye-bye to them as quickly as possible so you can be about the business of growing long, healthy hair.

    I can tell you some products that I’ve tried. What’s inexpensive to me may not be inexpensive to you. Aphogee, Nexxus Emergency are a couple that I can recommend. Can’t tell you the prices though. You can find them at most any salon and even Sally Beauty Supply.

    Good luck to you both!

  42. Danielle says:

    I normally have fast growing hair that is extremely thick, I got my hair cut at the beginning of the summer around June and it has not grown since then. I was just wondering if their is anything I do to fix this problem. My Hairdresser said that it seemed odd b/c at the top front where my bangs normally would be there is baby fine hair as if it is just starting to grow, but my hair sheds more than usual. By the handful when I shower brush and any other time. It has not been so much so here lately, but I maintain a healthy diet, about as much exercise as I get is walking and I go through about a 24 pack of bottled water in a week or so. Is there anything else I can use or do? I currently have a large variety of hair care products, from dove, to Paul Mitchell, Garnier Fructis, Aussie and Thermasilk. My hair dresser also told me not to wash my hair every day unless it was necessary.

  43. nappyme says:

    Danielle, my apologies, I over looked your post. I’m going to say that I’m perplexed. I think you need to go see a dermatologist to see why your hair isn’t growing. I’ve always said that hair grows…period. And some hair has to shed on a regular basis. Many black women will wear styles where shed hair isn’t combed out on a daily basis, when we do finally get around to combing and brushing a style, it can look like we’re losing too much hair. But if you consider that our we loose 50-100 hairs a day through normal shedding, if you don’t comb your hair for a week, well then you will see a lot of shed hair in your comb or brush. That’s quite normal. The time to be concerned is when you start noticing that your hair is thinning…that would be because your shed hair isn’t being replaced as quickly as it normally should or not at all.

    So since you are experiencing slow growth and perhaps some thinning, I think a trip to the doctor is in order.

    Take care and good luck,

  44. Michelle Lene says:

    I’m not sure if my first comment came through right, so I’m sending another.
    My question is “how to grow nappy hair when my hair is slightly permed, without cutting it?”

  45. nappyme says:

    Hi Michelle,
    Welcome to NPP101!
    Just so you know, all comments to my blog must be approved by me prior to posting…that’s why you didn’t see it right away. A while back, I had some nutso leaving crazy comments so I had to turn on my APPROVE COMMENT feature. Also, I’m starting to get a lot of stupid spam, which my spam catcher isn’t doing such a hot job of catching so that’s another good reason for approving comments before hand. Sucks that my visitors can’t see their comments in real time but that’s the way it all shakes out.

    Anyhoo, on to answering your question. Can’t be done. Well ok…let me back up. Your hair is chemically treated so that means it the chemical bonds that make your hair nappy have been permanently altered. As your new growth starts to come in, the point where your virgin hair meets your permed hair will create a weak point and be highly prone to breakage. As you transition, you’ll want to create styles that will cater to your new growth and not your permed hair, cause ultimately you WILL HAVE TO CUT IT OFF. Now how soon you do that will be determined by how long you can stand dealing with two different textures and/or how long you can retain the chemically treated hair without experiencing massive breakage.

    One thing you can do to try to strengthen your hair during the transition period is to do pure protein treatments…like maybe twice a month. Anymore than that and you’ll risk drying out your hair, which will make it brittle and more prone to breakage, which will defeat your whole purpose of trying to hold onto your length until you’re ready to part with it.

    Now there’s a whole lot more that you should know and do when dealing with transitioning, however, I’m really not the best person to ask cause quite frankly, I slapped braids in my hair and didn’t come out of them for dang near four years. So, I’ma point you to for some great information about transitioning out of your perm.

    Good luck!

  46. Courtney says:

    hi im 17 and i have thick hair cut into a short choppy haircut and yes i do perm it (i dont have anything against being natural i think its pretty but i just personally prefer straight hair), i try 2 keep it moisturized and not apply 2 much heat 2 it and i was just wondering if theres anything else i can do 2 get it 2 grow long and healthy

  47. nappyme says:

    Hi Courtney,
    I have no advice for ya. If I knew anything about taking care of relaxed hair, I’d not have experienced constant damage and breakage. So I’m surely not the one to ask.

  48. Fred says:

    Hi im 19 years old and, and i have a dry scalp and it seems im going bald in the back of my head im not quite sure if i am cuz its been like that for years. The hair on the top and sides grow good but the hair in the back is always real short. I always thought its becaue of the way i sleep cause i sleep on my back alot so i thought that was keeping my hair from growing. Well i was just looking for some answers, if you can help thank you. Oh yea does grease really help your hair grow?

  49. nappyme says:

    Hi Fred,
    Welcome to NPP101!
    Don’t think I’ve ever had a guy leave a comment before. Well, if your hair has been thin in that spot for as long as you can remember with no change…as in it doesn’t seem to be getting any worse…then ONE possiblity is that your follicles could be blocked. I’ve read that this can be a possible cause of hair that doesn’t grow well in terms of gaining length and also in terms of density/thickness i.e., the number of hairs that grow out of your scalp.

    Sooooo, what to do? Sounds to me like you may need to go to a dermatologist or someone who can do a detailed analysis of your hair and scalp to see if there is any blockage of your follicles. I honestly think that might be the best place to start. That way you can find out definitively what the problem is and whether or not there is a treatment that can help grow your hair in that area.

    Hope this helps. Good luck,

  50. shantell says:

    Hiya, i am 27 years old, i have shoulder length hair, and i colour it every 5 weeks by bleaching at the hairdressers. The problem is i dont think my hair growing, cos everyone around me hair over taking mine even though mine was longer then theres before. I take hair and nail vitiams. and i drink water every day. i am also very active. I play netball 3 times a week. So plesae help me to solve this problem.

    Many thanks


  51. nappyme says:

    Shantell you don’t say if you’re relaxed or natural. If you’re relaxed and you’re bleached, you have put your hair through so many chemical processes it’s a wonder that you have ANY hair on your head to even speak of. And if you’re natural, you’re still doggin’ your hair out because next to getting a relaxer, bleaching your hair ranks right up there with the most horrible things you could possibly do to your hair. If you want to retain your length you’ve GOT to stop abusing your hair. If you think about it, black women who have the healthiest, longest hair don’t do a lot to it by way of chemicals. So my advice is if you’re relaxed…go natural. If you’re dying your hair…stop. If you’re using heat…stop…and start taking better care of your hair and it will one day thank you very much.

    Good luck!

  52. Peter Gray says:

    im a 15 year old boy and i was wondering why my hair doesnt grow.
    i would like to have shoulder length hair but my hair doesnt grow that way. it kind of grows very thick but not long.
    is there anything that i could do to make it grow long and not thick, or is there anything that i could get to help it grow
    thank you

  53. nappyme says:

    Peter your hair is growing, but you may be doing things to circumvent retaining length. Say take a look at your hair care practices. Also, it could be that your hair grows rather slowly so between that and breakage your hair seems to not gain any length.

    Also everyone has a predetermined number of follicles (the holes in your scalp where your hair grows from) and that determines how dense (e.g., the number of hairs per square inch) is, and there’s nothing you can do to change that. However, you could have a medical condition where all of your follicles aren’t producing hair the way they should. However, that’s probably unlikely.

    So to that end, take care of your ends to retain length and you should eventually see longer hair.

    Good luck!

  54. ilana says:

    i am an 18 years old and have been struggling with my hair for as long as i can remember.

    i am hispanic but my hair looks like i can be biracial. My mom has thick and wavy hair, while my dad has kinky thinner hair. I came out with thick thick hair. I remember as a young girl it would grow very fast, and i had it longer. My mother put a relaxer in my hair at age 6, and i was getting them about twice a year. When i reached my teenage years i would do the relaxers more often, almost every 3 months. My hair now is right below my ears. I have decided that i do not want to put relaxers in my hair. I feel as if my hair is not growing, and is constantly having split ends.
    Will my hair go into shock? I was once told that the new hair growth will weaken from not getting a relaxer.. is this true? Also what type of suggestion can you give me in regards to managing it to help it grow in, and products to style it so its under control. I do straighten it once a week with the flat iron. The shampoo and conditioner i am using right now are by mizani, a product that was recommended from a friend
    i am screaming for help!!

  55. nappyme says:

    Hi Ilana,
    What is the difference in texture between your new growth and relaxed hair? I can’t visualize. Usually, if there isn’t that big a difference between the two the point of demarcation…that is where the relaxed hair butts up against the natural hair isn’t as fragile.

    But I will tell you that your new growth should be stronger than your relaxed hair. I don’t advocate using heat on your new growth but that’s up to you. You can gradually cut out your relaxer as your new hair grows in.

    Why not cater to your new growth, minus the heat and see what happens. If you hair is more curly and not especially kinky, I’m going to recommend that you check out a couple of different hair message boards that cater to your hair texture. One is and the other one is I think they’ll have much better advice for your texture than I can personally give you during your transition phase.

    And of course, another site that can help you tremendously is NP, as this site is affectionately called by it’s members absolutely will not tolerate talk about putting heat on your hair. So if you decide to join don’t expect to get any support or advice about using flat irons and such.

    The other two sites that I mentioned don’t have such restrictions.

    So please, check out these sites. Feel free to lurk for information if you’re find you’re not immediately comfortable with posting at first. I think you’ll find a wealth of information on all three sites. And if you do decide to post to ask some questions, you’ll find helpful people on all three sites.

    So good luck and congrats on your decision and journey to go natural.

    God bless,

  56. Kingston Gold says:

    Greetings Sis!

    I am a 25 yo sister who has been natural since I was about 13. From about 15-18 I had beautiful loks. At 18 I cut them off, and went with a short fade. About a year ago I decided I wanted to lok again. As I began to let my fade grow out, I noticed my hair was thinner than it use to be, and had two notable thinning spots. I still went ahead with loking up my hair, and found a great loctician who uses all natural products in my hair. Since I’ve been working with this loctician, my hair has definitely improved, but it is still not where it use to be; nor where I want it to be. I’ve been researching thickening agents for the past 6 months or so, but am very wary about trying a product that isn’t 100% natural. At the same time, the natural products I have tried haven’t shown results. I would really love for my naps to become thicker, and I’d like those thinning spots to heal and grow. Any suggestions?

    Thank you so much Sister!!!

    ~ Kingston

  57. nappyme says:

    Kingston welcome to NPP101!

    Sounds to me like your dreads may have been heavy enough or tightened to tightly enough that it may have caused some traction alopecia. I’m no expert by any means about the things that you can/should do to help your hair and scalp recover. But I have an excellent resource for you. Please join and check out the Alopeica forum. Hundreds of women have participated in that forum and give good advice and tips about how to handle this condition. You may also want to consider going to a dermatologist to get a proper diagnosis of your condition as well so that you can truely know what is going on with your hair.

    In the mean time do not wear styles that are going to put any undue stress on your follicles. Do not let them be tightened to the point that you feel them pulling at your scalp. That just cannot be good.

    Good luck sis and keep me updated.

    Take care,

  58. Sarah says:

    I’m a straighterning addict; i have been straightning my hair for 2 years now and it is life less..
    i have died it twice from bordem, and it just seems to be never growning.. is there anything i can do to premote its growth. please help me its my prom soon and i don’t want a head full of straw!


  59. nappyme says:

    Hi Sarah…
    I have no advice for you except to STOP abusing your hair. Sounds like your hair is really damaged. The only solution then would be to grow it out and start over. If you’re natural heat is the enemy. Take a look around the site and read various articles on how to take care of natural hair. Join some hair boards such as for support. Just know that if you’re natural, you can learn to style your hair without heat.

    Good luck!

  60. Bertha says:

    Please tell me if my hair will grow back fully after so much damage from weaving that it is so thin and I have lost about 90% of its density.
    My natrual hair is thick, tough and curly. I am mixed race. No alopecia in family. Im healthy.
    Now my hair is very soft, almost see through at the temples and thin. It thinned after my last terrible weave. I stopped weaving the parts that have thinned ath teh temples and front even three years before.
    And after the last weave the back just came out There is hardly anything there now.
    Please help.
    Thank you.

  61. nappyme says:

    Hi Bertha,
    Sis, it sounds like you are suffereing from traction alopeica. This isn’t hereditary, it’s caused by physically pulling your hair out at the roots repeatedly before the growth cycle is comeplete. Eventually the hair in those follicles start producing finer and finer hair until it just can’t produce anything at all.

    Some people, if they stop the pulling soon enough do regrow their hair to some measure. How much they recover most likely depends on how long they’ve been tearing their hair out and that too probably depends on each individual.

    So, I don’t have a crystal ball to know whether or not your hair will grow back. But you need to stop weaving…period. Go to a dermatologist pronto so they can give you a medical diagnosis and suggests a plan of treatment.

    Also, consider joining This community has a very active forum devoted to women suffering from allopecia. You’re likely to get a lot of good information, tips and support about dealing with this condition.

    So good luck and take care. I wish you the best in recovering from this. Traction alopeica is totally preventable, I just wish more black women would stop the weave and pulling madness once and for all.


  62. Daphney says:

    Hello, I just moved to from one city in Florida to another. Since the move I have had a big problem with dry scalp and hair. I was in California recently for a visit and my hair did great. No flaking and my hair was soft and manageable. But back in Florida and I am having the same problem. I can’t move to California, so what can I do? Someone shared with me that it’s the weather causing the problem. I do not like to use a lot of oil on my hair because it weighs it down. I like my hair to be soft and bouncy, but the only way to deal with it is to keep oiling it. Someone recommended using products that are moisturizing versus oil based products. They said that my hair has probably gone into some sort of shock because of the move. Could my hair really change that much from one city to another (it’s only 2 hours from where I used to live). I have never had this problem before. What do you suggest I do?

  63. Daphney says:

    I forgot to mention that I relax my hair, and I have been using the same relaxer since middle school. I am now 32 years old, and it’s the only relaxer that I trust. I do not color or anything else. My hair is shoulder length and has been shedding a lot more since moving as well. I take Biotin once a day, I’ve heard it’s a great vitamin for hair and nail growth.

  64. nappyme says:

    Daphney… welcome to NAPPturology 101. I have no suggestions on how to take care of relaxed hair. If I were an expert at it, I wouldn’t have I wouldn’t have spent 20 years trying to figure out how to stop my hair from breaking all the time.

    My suggestion to you is to ditch the chemicals and go natural. Worked for me!

  65. GRACE JONES says:

    What brands of shampoo do you reccomend for damaged hair????

    Is it possible for hair to be hopelessly damaged and for it to never grow again??

  66. Michelle Spencer says:

    hi, I have traditional locks that are thin enough to be sisterlocks. I have had them for 2 1/2 years and as of 1a yr ago I’ve been doing them myself. about 6 months ago i called myself trimming my own locks and damn near cut them all off. what didn’t come off then is still coming off now. my hair is growing but it doesn’t show because it keeps breaking of and unravelling @the ends. what should I do to make the ends lock up?

  67. nappyme says:

    Hi Michelle and welcome to NPP101. Sorry to say I don’t know ANYTHING about maintaining locs. One of the best resources on the internet is That hair board has a forum devoted specifically to locs. I’d suggest that if you’re not a member you might consider joining, however, you may not need to be a member just to lurk that forum…yet. Soon, the owner will be launching a new board and on the new Nappturality board you will need to be a paying subscribed member. So you might want to hop on over there now while you can ask your question and get some free advice.

    Good luck!

  68. leona leaves says:

    hi my name is leona and Ive been natural for about two years now but it doesn’t seem like my hair is growing. I have short very rough nappy hair and most times is brush it back and put it in a bun because I do not know what to do with it. Its so short I really do think anything will look good if I try it. Its funny because in high school when I went natural i used to braid my hair without extensions and it grew. Please help me! Also I want to know since I am in college and is stressing all the time should I be taking certain vitamins to encourage my hair growth?

  69. nappyme says:

    Hi Leona,
    I’m sorry to hear about your hair woes. Do know that being in optimum health can insure that you’re gaining optimum growth…and taking vitamin can be beneficial for to your health for a variety of reasons…not just for the purposes of assisting you with growing hair. But as my article points out unless you are having some major health crisis, most folks don’t have a problem growing hair but retaining length. And you have to figure out what you’re doing wrong and correct it.

    So, I’m going to urge you to be proactive and review the following articles on my website. Please go to the right side of this page and click on the following stories

    Hair Facts
    Ditch the Hair Grease; Is an Oil-free Routine Right for You?
    Heat: Nappy Hair’s Worse Enemy
    Help: My Hair Isn’t Growing!
    Moisture: Nappy Hair’s Best Friend
    Top Tips for Nappy Hair

    These should get you started. I’d also like to invite you to join my hair care forum where you can have access to a lot of information that can help you on your journey.

    Good luck to and take care,

  70. naturelle wonder says:

    Hello nappyme! I don’t have any hair woes or trouble to speak of (right now) but I want to commend your site and the hair advice your give so freely. I am transitioning to natural year and I’m always on the look out for natural hair advice. I’ll be 14 months post relaxer in a few days and love every inch of new growth that I have.

    Keep up the good work!

  71. nappyme says:

    Hi Natural Wonder…welcome to NPP101!
    Congrats on your decision to transition and go natural. Thanks for visiting and enjoying my site. Come back often and let me know when you do BC cause I’d love to celebrate that mile stone with ya.

    Take care,

  72. Kelley says:

    about a year ago I decided to put this so called cold perm in my hair. I thought it was okay to leave in for a long time because I have very coarse hair, “guess what happened” all my hair came out at the top in patches. now about 9 months later I do see improvement, but I still see some small areas that are still thine. I need help!! please advise! oh I also wanted to know if you ever known anyone to do what I did and also when this happens does your scape become tender, because mine is very tender and sometime sore! why is that?

  73. nappyme says:

    Hi Kelly,
    I’m going to be straight up about this, if you haven’t already done so, you really need to go see a dermatologist. It just sounds like you have some horrible chemical burns that have damaged your follicles. Hopefully not irreparably so. But only a dermatologist can tell you that for sure.

    Also, I don’t know of anyone personally that has experienced this. You may want to join and visit the alopecia forum. There you’ll be able to lurk and or post and ask question about your condition and get advice from other women, many of whom have probably experienced chemically induced alopecia just like you have.

    So please take the time to do both of these and hopefully you’ll be able to find something that can help you.

    Good luck and take care,

  74. linda says:

    I thank it is wonderful that you are helping so many with your insite on how to help grow healthy long hair. Keep up the good work and may GOD continue to bless you.

  75. linda says:

    I wanted to know if using patene beautiful lenghts be helpful in growing my hair. My hair is super dry and I wear my hair in the two strand twist. I do not use any chemical on my hair. Oh yeah it is also thick and coarse. Thank you

  76. nappyme says:

    Hi Linda and welcome to NPP101.
    I’d question what this product is specifically supposed to do. In my opinion conditioners are a straight up waste of money on nappy hair. If it worked so dang well, then why does everyone have to work so hard to moisturize their hair with other products? I say skip the conditioner and head straight for the moisturizer. If you’re going for length, protective styles are the best for minimizing breakage and promoting length retention. You’ll find that there’s no magic formula out there for “growing” one’s hair. Simply put, hair grows cause that’s what it does, learning how to retain length is the key to realizing longer hair. Soooo…I wouldn’t run out and buy this product just for that…keep it in your pocket instead.

    Good luck, God bless and happy growing!

  77. linda says:

    My sister bought me the organic twist and lock gel. I had heard so much about it and I wanted to give it a try. I wear the two strand twist. I am hoping this will help them last longer plus condition them. I have very dry hair. This is why when people say do not use grease I do. I have tried oils but they just do not keep my hair from drying out. I hope this will not dry my hair out. I hope you have some insight on this product.
    Again I say thank you. I pray that GOD will continue to bless and keep you in all that you do. Linda

  78. nappyme says:

    Hi Linda,
    I had to google this to see if it was a product that I was familiar with…and I am. Yes I’ve used it but this stuff left some really nasty grainy residue in my hair. You can see it, especially if you wear your hair loose, like in a twistout or a puff, the residue looks like little grains of sand. I used it on two seperate occasions and got the same result.

    My recommendation is to throw this crap in the garbage!


  79. linda says:

    It is me again. I am now thinking of using mayo as a deep conditioner on my hair; Do you think this will be wise to do? Thank You

  80. nappyme says:

    Hi Linda,
    I’ve heard of people using mayo on their hair as a conditioner. While I’m certain it can’t hurt your hair, I think you’ll have to try it and be your own judge as to whether you’ve reaped any benefits from its use. But no matter what, I’m sure it’s not something you’d want to leave any traces of in your hair so make sure you rinse thoroughly after you’re finished conditioning your hair.

    Good luck!

  81. Tamera says:

    Well, I guess I’ve been a lurker long enough.
    Hello there, my name’s Tamera and I’m a 17-year-old African-American girl and I have been in a hair crisis for the past 3 years. I used to have hair that was below my shoulders (when pressed or relaxed) when I was about 12 or 13 years old, but now my hair is all kinked up and damaged and I don’t know what to do. I used to perm my hair every two weeks, but then I got a weave put in my hair when I was 14. Two months after, I took it out, and my hair was completely broken. It had gone from below my shoulders to mid-neck. After that point, I stopped perming my hair and switched on and off from pressing to braiding. My hair stayed the same length for a couple of years. Then when I was 16, I kept my hair tightly braided for two months in the summer. When I took the braids out, my hair became brittle and hair came out from the roots, and my hair became even shorter (I’m unsure if it was traction alopecia, or whether I’m still suffering from it, but hair comes out from the hairline in strands and from diff. places of the hair) . After that, I was so disillusioned with braiding and hated to style my short hair, so I just pressed my hair occasionally and left it out when it would soon puff out. Now my hair is still the same length (mid-neck) and I don’t know what to do with it. I know that pressing will break my hair, so I’m too scared to do it. I’m to afraid to braid my hair. And I don’t know what to do with this nappy hair of mine to stimulate growth. What should I do?

  82. Anne M says:

    A few weeks ago I had super thick wavy black hair that went down to my back. Previously I’d gotten the worst possible haircut (choppy layers) that made me look like I had giant split ends because of its thinner consistency at the end. People always commented on how ‘nice’ and ‘thick’ it looked and I couldn’t really understand how they could overlook such a bad haircut. I’m in highschool and some days its appearance really affected my self-esteem. In the end I really grew to like it because my hair seemed lighter and it had more volume at the same time.
    A couple of weeks ago, however, my father was really badgering me about its appearance, contrary to what everyone else thought, and I immediately felt upset. We ended up going to the hairdresser and I convinced myself to chop off all my layers which amounted to 4 inches. Big Mistake. Though it was all levelled now, it completely overwhelmed me with its size, thickness and short length. I really need help taming the Beast. I always used to do braided hairstyles when I got sick of its volume, but whenever I tried to do them, it just looked unflattering. Did I do the right thing in cutting it? Are there any products or hairstyles that you could recommend?

  83. linda says:

    Hi, hope all is well. This is a funny story. My niece made a mistake and put cocoa butter lotion(palmers ) on her daughters hair. She was going swimming so she did not have time to wash it out. So she went an entire day with it on it. She wondered would it damage her child hair. I told her I did not think so. Thanks. Linda

  84. nappyme says:

    Hi Linda. Yes all is well. I’m with you, I can’t imagine that it would do any damage to her hair either.

    Take care,

  85. Lisa says:

    well my names lisa im Puerto-Rican and black and my hair is curly when wet and nappy when dry for 3 yr’s i grew my hair out with olive oil root stimulator and blue magic hair grease and it grew past my shoulders but i got tired of having to keep it up because i have a very busy lifestyle so i relaxed it and it was really pretty long and straight but then a few weeks later my hair started knotting up really bad and if i tried to comb it my hair would began to come out-bad- well i went to the salon and had them cut it all the way to the nape of my neck and it was fine for a few weeks manageable but then the napps came back and the shedding begin to happen (but around the time of the relaxer i did get my first job, which is stressful) so i don’t know what to do i use the olive oil root stimulator, wash with tresseme anti-breakage shampoo, use blue magic coconut hair grease on my scalp, and i wide tooth comb, and always remember to use tresseme detangler, and i don’t put heat on i don’t understand why my hair has been shedding so badly for the last 7 months, even when i run my fingers through my hair-theres breakage…i’ve never had my hair this bad..what am i to do??

  86. jessie says:

    Hi! I’ve been bleaching my hair to the whitest shade possible for quite some time now. i used good shampoos to restore hydration and to keep it healthy but for the past 6 months or so my hair seems to be growing out weird. I dont know if it’s my imagination or if there are facts that prove it but my hair is growing longer in the back at a healthy rate. it seems though that on the sides by my ears its not growing at all! or very VERY slowly. I dyed my hair brown and my natural color is blonde so i can tell that its growing a little bit but every time i get my hair cut as time goes by it turns into looking like a mullet. The sides grow very slowly which concerns me. Is there something wrong with my hair? are there any shampoos/conditioners i can use that promote hair growth?

  87. brad says:

    hi im 15 and straighten my hair alot and have dyed my hair twice in the last 2 months black and brown. since then it has been breaking and falling out so bad that i can see my scalp this is mainly around the side of the head. do think the reason its falling out is because it is damaged or something else.
    is there any way to stop it from falling out

    many thanks xx brad

    • nappyme says:

      Brad, you could be having an allergic reaction to the hair dye, not to mention the fact that you could be over processing it. I think you should seek medical advice from a dermatologist immediately. In the mean time, do not put any more heat and chemicals in your hair.

      Take care and good luck,

  88. Jhade says:

    hi,im 13 and i started to grow my hair back to its natural state,since july 2008.the only problem is,that it is taking so long to grow longer.I am just so sick of having short hair and i want to know how to get it longer faster. I know they say it has something to do with genes so i thought i should let you know that i am mixed with spanish chinese and negro.PLZ HELP!!!!!

    • nappyme says:

      Hi JHade,
      What a wonderful decision you’ve made to grow your natural hair out and wear it with pride. I bet you look absolutely adorable. Please know that nothing can speed up how FAST someone hair grows. Due to genetics, your body is already preprogrammed as to how FAST it will grow. Most people’s hair on average grows approximately 1/2 per month and that equal about 6 inches in a year. But because this is an AVERAGE, this means that some people will experience fast growth and some will experience slower growth. Most likely you’re close to the 6-inches-a-year average.

      Now how much length you have at the end of the year, also depends on how well you take care of your hair so that you retain the length. Your ends are the oldest part of your hair shaft so you have to protect them at all costs. If you don’t you’ll have breakage and split ends that will cause even more breakage.

      I hesitate to give you specific hair care advice though cause I have no clue what your texture is like.

      ~Take care and good luck!

  89. london mum says:

    Hello nappyme! I am desperate for your help. I have a 2 and a half year old daughter whose hair is constantly breaking at the temples. I feel terribly guilty as I know it is my fault; when she was a baby her grandmother was constantly making me feel bad for not plaiting her hair. She told me that any good mother knows that you’re supposed to wash, grease (with vaseline) and plait a baby’s hair everyday. So I did this and I regret it completely. Eventually all my baby’s hair fell out at the front; she had a huge bald patch that took about 6 months to grow back. Since then I only twist her hair and not too tightly but her sides have never really come back properly. They’re not bald but the hair is very light compared to the rest of her very thick 4b/c hair so it looks like her hair is receding. I’ve thrown away all the chemicals, mineral oil products etc and replaced them with shea butter and natural oils. However, I’ve found the shea butter too thick and the oils too oily!!!
    I don’t know what to do. Can you please recommend a good natural product range I can buy or have shipped to the UK; the choice is overwhelming! Is she too young for an aphogee protein treatment? Please don’t think I’m crazy but I’m desperate to fix her hair problem.

    Thank you in advance,
    Confused London Mum

  90. Hollie says:

    i have noticed my hair has only grown about half an inch in the last 2 years it really gets me down because before i had it cut short it used to be thick and long, now its short and thin, its not in bad condition, however i do use ghds, but cant see this been the major problem as its not in bad condition. it is highlighted but i only have it done about 4-6 times a yrs. i have tried Nourkrin that hasnt helped and various shampoos and tablets. please help as to what else i can do to help. also i have a dry scalp but my hair still gets greasy after 1 day

    • nappyme says:

      Hollie I’ve never heard of anyone’s hair growing that slowly. Sounds like your ends are breaking as fast as it’s growing. You need to re-examine your hair care routine. Also since you’re posting on my blog I have to assume that you’re natural. But because I don’t know anything about your hair or your routine beyond what you’ve just shared with me, I’m going to suggest that you go see a dermatologist to make sure that you don’t have some underlying cause of slowing growth and or very brittle hair.

      Take care and good luck!

  91. KATARA says:


    • nappyme says:

      Hi Katara,
      I’m sure you can find some styles that you like. You can try checking out online hair albums to see if you can find something that flatters your face that you can try. If you don’t have any in mind, try going to and checking out the online albums forum. Here’s the link: Of course, you could always become a member and post your question on the site and see if you get some suggestions. I’ve seen that question before, so don’t think it’s unusual.

      Good luck and take care,

  92. Saray says:

    Hello there Nappyme,
    Well,Im 16 years old & hispanic.Im tired of having short hair.Well its not that short,its pasted my shoulders.I straighten my hair mostly everyday.Can my hair still grow if I straighen everyday?I haven’t dyed my hair since August 2008,hopefully so my hair can grow faster.I really don’t want to cut my split ends beacause I know its going to end up being really short.My friends have told me to braid my hair before I go to sleep,because they told me that my hair will grow faster.Is that true?Also,I have been taking vitiams everyday.Is there anything else I can do to make my hair grow fast? Thank you for your time (:

    • nappyme says:

      Hi Saray,
      Welcome to NPP101! You can’t do anything to speed up the growth rate of your hair. How fast it grows is left up to your biology — it’s preprogrammed by your genes. If you read the article on this page, you’ll see that one of the hair facts states that hair grows on average six inches a year. That’s about .5 inches a month. Since this is an average your hair may grow more slowly or if you’re one of the lucky ones it may grow faster that this.

      So you say you want longer hair? Then it’s all about retaining what you grow. Your ends are the oldest part of your hair shaft and so it’s imparative that you take care of what you already have to prevent splitting and breakage. If you straighten your hair every day, you’re likely drying it out, causing it to become dry and brittle and break. If you currently have bad split ends…they gotta go cause they will continue to split and break and may eventually compromise the entire length of the hair shaft and continue to split more than just the ends.

      You may want to consider learning to let your natural texture have its way and stop abusing it with heat. To learn to care for your hair, I suggest you join some natural hair care boards like where you’re bound to find others with a similar texture of hair that can give advice and you can ask and get your questions answered.

  93. jessica says:

    hey. my hair was long like the middle of my back and then i cut it up to my shoulder.i have really thin hair. i want my hair to grow long would you that take?

  94. Juliet says:

    Hey, My hair just does not grow anymore, I have had Exzema since I was little and have been on a slight steroid based cream Eumovate ointment for years. I am now 33 and my hair has not grown in about 3yrs, and I think that it is getting thinner. What can I do???

    • nappyme says:

      I’m sooooo sorry to hear about your problems. But please know that I’m not a doctor. I advise you to talk with you physician or dermatologist to see if you can remedy the problem.

      Take care and God bless,

  95. Violet says:

    I too like so many of the women on your site have been coloring and relaxing my hair for too many years to count. My hair has started to get thin. I have hypothyroidism and that too contributes to the problem of thinning hair.

    However, I wanted to ask you about using a hair color that has no chemical, but has natural dyes from vegetables and plants for color. Do you think they would be okay to use on the hair instead of the conventional hair colors which use so much chemical???

    Thank you for all you great comments. I have really enjoyed reading your comments and I have decided to stop relaxing my hair, but would like to ocassionally add some color.

    Thank you in advance for your great advise.

    • nappyme says:

      Hi Violet,
      You’re sooooo welcome!

      I don’t know much about plant based dyes but my instincts make me think that they’d be more gentle on the hair that conventional hair dyes. However, I’d advise you to do some research into this as I’m not sure, but I will admit you’ve definitely got me curious enough to also look into this. If you decide to do so, please come back and let me know what you find out.

  96. Shayna says:


    I just did my big chop 6 weeks ago, and am now rocking a TWA. I have an inch of hair, and it looks as if i have some split ends, but im not too sure. I know low manipulation is best to retaining lenght, but I work out 4 days a week, and I heard that sweat in your hair is salthy & that you should at least rinse it out. Is rinsing it out daily a good idea?

  97. Karen says:

    Hi – I just got braids-extensions back in January to help my hair grow, which always works, but I just took them out (i know, wayyyy too late) and I had knots I COULD NOT take out, unkot, detangle, what-have-you, so I had to cut my already short hair down, and it saddens me. It’s TOO short now, and I’m wondering…

    what should I do while I wait for my hair to grow back to considerable lengths? I was just wondering what I could do to help my hair grow back ASAP and what are my styling alternatives, that are healthiest for my hair? 😦

  98. Michaeke says:

    What you said about hair not growing might be true, but I really do believe that my hair isn’t (or at least is growing VERY slowly). I’ve had relaxers all my life, usually done at home by my mother, but since I’ve gone to college I haven’t had the time. The last time I was relaxed was 8 months ago in August. I got it texturized in January to prevent naps and have smoother prettier roots (I have 4a hair).

    Can you help me? I want healthy hair that is beautiful, but I’m just not sure how to handle it. I’m reluctant to get another relaxer to smooth my roots because I feel like I’d just be relaxing old hair (because I feel like my hair isn’t growing).

    • nappyme says:

      Hi Michaeke,
      Sorry that you’re having troupbles, but you can rest assured that your hair is indeed growing because if it wasn’t you’d be BALD! And the fact that you continually get relaxers to touch up your roots shows you that your hair is growing or you wouldn’t need to continously touch up your roots.

      If you tired of using relaxers, then perhaps you’re ready to go natural. If you’re not, I don’t know what to tell you because I’m not an expert on wearing relaxers. If I were, I’d not have experienced 20 years of breakage and heartache.

      If you’re ready to go natural, there are plenty of resources that can get you started and help you learn how to embrace, care for and style your natural hair. has a transitioners forum that you could take a look at. is another good resource. You’ll find good information about caring for natural hair all over my blog, Nappturology 101.

      So if you’re serious about it, you’ll need to be proactive about learning how to care for your hair. You’ll have a learning curve of course and you may experience some frustration, but ultimately, the time you put into learning about your hair will be time well spent as you prepare to embark on your natural journey.

      Hope that helps point you in the right direction. Good luck on what you decide to do!


  99. Michaeke says:

    The reason why I say that my hair isn’t growing is because the length stays the same. My mother says the touch ups are for ‘new growth’, but I just think that my roots are reverting. Otherwise, my hair would be longer? Or could it be that the breakage is just the same as the amount of growth, leading me to believe that my hair is not growing at all?

    Well then, I guess I would need to find out what the difference is between reverted roots and natural roots. I don’t know what my natural roots are because I’m not sure if my hair is growing or just reverting.

    • nappyme says:

      Hi Michaeke,
      Once chemicals are used to relax your hair, it permanently breaks the bonds that causes your hair to curl or kink up and that’s irreversible. Permanently relaxed hair CANNOT revert. It’s impossible. Your second guess is true. Your ends are breaking as fast as your hair grows. In other words, you’re not retaining length.

      Your ends are the oldest part of your hair shaft and the most vulnerable to the stress of everyday wear and tear (e.g., blow drying, heat, combing, brushing, wind, sun…etc.) If you’re not minimizing or eliminating these stresses, your hair can’t thrive and your ends will be the first to suffer and break off.

      When I had a relaxer (and even when I started doing my own press n curls prior to relaxing), my hair never gained any length longer than about six to seven inches…never. Now that I’m natural and have learned to take care of my hair, and know how to take care of it, my hair is coming up on 16 inches long. But I also don’t stress my hair with all the things that can cause breakage, I keep it moisturized AND I keep it protective styles 99.9999 percent of the time. This has enabled me to retain length beyond my wildest imagination.

      Now make no mistake about it… I’m not telling you how to take care of relaxed hair. I can’t. I don’t know how. So if you’re not ready to go natural… I can’t help you. But there are other sites where you can get information that may help you. Check out Long Hair Care Forum, Black Hair Care Media and other sites similar to this where you can get help with relaxed hair.


  100. Todd says:

    I’m an 18 year old male that recently started growing my hair out. It’s about an inch and a half long and I started wearing 2 strand twists. I was wondering if wearing that hairstyle gives you the same benefits as wearing cornrows?? Do you have any albums of men hairstyles??


    • nappyme says:

      Hi Todd,
      Twists are a great protective way to wear your hair, but I don’t think they’re as durable as cornrows. In addition, depending on your texture, if you leave twists alone for too long, they can become matted and loc very easily. Cornrows and braids don’t tangle like that. In addition braids will show more length than twists, however twists will show more volume. But twists are easier to take down than braids.

      Ha so there are pros and cons to both, but both can be very effective protective styling that will enable you to retain length if that’s your goal.

      Hope that helps!

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